So despite having all Summer..

[SouthWestmom]

.. Did left it until yesterday at 3pm to realise she had no school blazers (she is 18) that fit the 'business dress'. This is mainly because they must fit exacting criteria of cool and acceptable. So m and s is no good, nor is Wallis, etc etc
So then this morning despite being told repeatedly that I wanted them to use the catering cards she starts fucking this and fucking that in the kitchen because there's no food and no Evian.
I get told to piss off and then she storms off.

And the worst thing is there are no sanctions I can think of - she's 18! What can I do?

You are all so kind to respond. I can't do individual responses as I'm about to drive to work but I have read all of them.

I think I just don't know mutts which is terrible - she's my first teenager, the landscape is so different now and I guess what I meant was 'help!'

Pag you have given me so good ideas , backed up by other pp.

I don't swear at the children if that's relevant, but I do swear at times so I have been trying to rein that in.

Glad to hear it isn't necessarily like dominoes.

I'm so worried if I refuse lifts she will just disappear into the night and be unsafe and I will make it worse if that makes sense.

Thank you. I'm thinking she can be less waited on and more self sufficient for a start.