On the verge of kicking her out eldest DD16

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She hits her siblings and really hurts them aged 12 and 6. My son when he was interviewed by the court over custody thing drew my eldest dd in the sad house.

I kind of feel these incidents are happening more frequently with exam pressure. I'm on my own with 4 of them. In a three Bed house. It's pretty much like living in a pressure cooker

I know SS won't do
Anything I know this to be a fact, they will come around in two weeks time to "support us" I don't want that

Nobody has ever touched her, ever

Honestly OP, you need to phone social services now. Indeed, the school that sent your other DD home whose been injured because of violence at home have probably done so.

This situation is completely untenable for everyone involved and you all need help from someone outside the situation. Your relationship with your own daughter has broken down and this is very clearly manifesting in her behaviour. It is really sad to see you saying you don't care about her and blame her for breaking up your marriage (which is unfair to blame a child for).

And actually you know he was a good father to her, lots of time, lots of attention she was never in the way but she made his life hell

Please be aware that SS options for residential care are very limited IME. I said we weren't safe due to dd's violence and was repeatedly told to call the police. Their option was a cell!

Safe places for young people with complex issues and violence that provide any sort of therapeutic value are nigh on impossible to find.

A children's home in all honesty could be a disaster for her.

I'm really shocked by your responses OP but I can see that you're desperate about this situation.

The only thing you can do is what is in the best interests of your children. That would mean arranging with your ex for him to have them for a while whilst you sort out what is going on with your daughter. It's not about you, it's best for them and removing them from their sister's presence would be the best thing at the moment as she's violent.

Make it a timed thing, ie. six weeks, two or three months. Then you can concentrate on your daughter. As advised, speak to your GP to find out what help is available there for you both.

I know this thorn she will not cope in a children's home or foster care. It'll go from bad to worst

Having younger siblings in danger might swing it for you. Dd is my only child and my safety wasn't really taken seriously.

I am serously considering renting a one bed flat and putting her in it. I know people who left home at 16. They coped she will too

You'd have to live with her let me to have any comprehension.

Until you've been abused and assaulted by your child perhaps hold back on the personal insults. It's hellish and takes you places you'd never imagined yourself to be.

If I was a bad mother I wouldn't be protecting my other kids

You need to report this to the police as an assault then go from there. As she is 16 SW wont become involved. At least not where I work. But if she gets involved with CJS she may get some support.

She wouldn't dare assault me just weaker defenceless little kids

Blue I don't want to fuck her life up, she has potential to do very well I don't want her to have a criminal record

The social services options may be bad but being stuck in a house with a mother who clearly resents you , holds you responsible for the break up of her marriage, and very much prefers her other children over you is an awful situation to be in. That's a very damaging situation for the 16 year old (and you can see this in her behaviour) and for everyone else.

It would be a good idea to see the GP about counselling for yourself because your responses here are not what you'd expect even in a parent at the end of her tether. It must be awful to be feeling like you are.

EVERY child who has a parent that makes it abundantly clear they detest their child the way you have is going to lash out. Children and teenagers can not control the hurt and anger they feel when it runs as deep as that. Sort yourself out and for god sake get some help for your daughter!!!

she sounds exactly like me that age, hurting badly, lashing out and no idea how to stop the pain. Anod guess what? I had a parent I knew didn't give a fuck, had a parent who's solition was to tell me to find somewhere else to live when I was badly depressed and needed help and support. It fucked my life for years, fucked my head for years. I pray to god your daughter gets the help, support and love she needs from someone because clearly you don't give a crap.

Phone social services emergency number. It should be on your local councils website
You need intervention as you are at breaking point

I don't believe for a moment the criminal justice system will support her

Yes the police can refer her to the MASh team if you have one in your area. They can be helpful.

SS are involved with dd who is 16 and a half! Maybe because of her autism?

Yeah me too lets, I've done everything in my power I'm done

Do you have Think Family in your area? They can be quite helpful.

I'll google them thorn

And the social work will get involved at 16, and if they don't barnardos will.