13/14 year olds and parties???

[hilary2012]

So my DD who will shortly turn 14 and wants a party for her birthday. OK with that :-) now the nitty gritty - she asks me 'will you be in the house?' I respond of course I'm staying in the house BUT I will be discreet....she says everyone drinks or brings drink to parties now - I say maybe some shandy and a punch bowl.........she says other parties finish at 1/2 in the morning - I say I think midnight is reasonable.... The is my first experience of child's house party and would love to know what other people think is reasonable at that age....many thanks

I have a 20 yr old, a 17 yr old and a 14 yr old.
Your dd is trying it on.
No alchohol before 6th form, at house parties (what you do with your own child at Christmas is different). Even in 6th form, house parties tend to finish by midnight, until the end of the yr after their a levels.

Am a bit confused about your remarks about almost 15 yr olds.......... surely Summer born dc have always had school friends who are a few months older than them?