My teenage daughter assaulted me

[Summerwood1]

When I told her she was grounded and took her phone off her. She is an adopted child we've been having problems with her behaviour for a couple of years now,social services have been useless. She is 16 it now looks like she will go in to supported living. She was arrested by the police for what she did to me. It left me feeling worthless,I've lost my confidence ,don't want to get out of bed. I'm also fearful of what will happen to her as supported living isn't an ideal option. I can't sleep, keep playing back in my mind what happened that evening. I feel scared of her and she's not even here now.

Oh I'm so sorry. No advice but just a virtual hug.

So sorry for you Summerwood. I know what you mean about keep going over it in your head - you keep thinking if you'd just said something different it wouldn't have happened but the chances are it would have happened sooner or later. You can't blame yourself. Just because she's headed for supported living doesn't mean you can't still have a relationship with her again in time. You clearly need the space at the moment and of course you're scared of her - she assaulted you. You were trying to put in boundaries and when she didn't accept them you continued with the boundaries by calling the police and refusing to accept her behaviour. Sounds to be as if you did the right thing. Don't lose confidence and be kind to yourself.

Thank you both for your kind words.

I really feel for you. I went through a stage like that with my DD she was older than your DD at the time.
I think supported living sounds good for both of you right now.
She needs to see how her actions are affecting you.
Take care of yourself