Am I the only one ashamed of their dcs behaviour?

[daizychain]

I just have to admit it! Is it awful. I have just seen a text from a friend of my dd who has been lovely recently as she has been having a difficult time asking what she has done wrong etc. it makes me cringe how she treats people. Is it just me??

Nope I cringe daily. Dd can be very offhand,demanding and bossy and at times as awful as this sounds im surprised she has any friends.

Nope you are not alone, I find my DD attitude cringe worthy as well at times, rude, stubborn, very little in empathy, bossy, clashes with her teachers. Her siblings and myself are not like it, don't know what happened here.

I have just had screaming and insults until 2 am. I don't think I can carry on to be honest. He is 16 and trying to destroy my life.

You are not. alone. I have come on here to see if I can find a way forward for the summer.

Surly, rude, uncommunicative, aggressive, lazy, ungrateful, ungracious. No idea of the value of money. Unaware of other people, their time, their things, their space and what they need. Dirty, messy, selfish. So........

I am hoping we can work something out and that he will grow up into a lovely young man.

Hi all. The teen brain is trying to make them independent. The way it does this is by making them feel embarrassment, hatred and even loathing towards their parents. Every teen feels this way. Unfortunately some feel it more than others. They are not in control of these feelings. They are not doing it deliberately they really have no control. When they have less of these feelings they find it easier to hide them. When the feelings are very strong they are all consuming.
Also boys are getting very sexual feelings about the opposite sex. This means when mum is affectionate and even kisses them this feels awful, wrong. They recoil. Any show of affection to mum is just wrong.
The thing to remember is how they are outside the house is the true them.
But remember girls are bitches again to different degrees. They all do it to each other. Don't worry too much about low level bitchyness.

Not sure I quite agree there. I have 3 teens, two of whom have their moments but don't we all. The other is like the anti Christ in human form! She can be vile to us at home and out of the house to friends and at school to! How do you manage your teens behaviour?

Orangevase - im going through this too. Ive posted my trials and tribulations under teenagers/Does anyone ever feel.....and some of the comments have really helped...have a look...it may make you see youre not on your own...its helping me x