What do I do now I've found my son's stash while snooping in his bedroom?!

[Havanna]

I had some drug concerns re my 17 yr old so did some investigating. Now I wish I hadn't because I did indeed find his stash of cannabis! I now want to confront him, but do I confess to having invaded his privacy? He hasn't shown any signs of taking anything, I was only alerted because of hearing tales of his friends smoking dope.

Tricky one! Was it well hidden? Perhaps start up a conversation about drugs?

Probably not helpful, but I'd be sorely tempted to swap it with a clearly labled bag of oregano. At least then he'll know you know, and he'll have to come and speak to you if he wants it back.

I am very tempted to remove it - but it then opens up the trust issue... then again he's broken mine!
I certainly can't claim I came across it - it was very well hidden!

It hadn't occurred to me he might be selling it! I don't think that is the case...
We've had the drugs conversation in the past, he's always said he knows it's silly/unhealthy/dangerous etc and told me to credit him with more sense!

He broke your trust by bringing drugs into the house and lying to you.

I would remove it and see what happens.

Yes what two said he's bought drugs into your house which is unacceptable. Smoking it is not good either of course.

I would have to say something though. I think I would go down the 'have you got anything to tell me' route and take it from there.

Stip being silly. He's smoking drugs. It's against the law. It's your house.

Now you need to explain this to him without losing your rag.

tell him you don't want it in the house

Talk to him honestly about it. Say why you went looking etc. if he thinks he is "adult" enough to do drugs, then he is old enough to appreciate your views and respect your rules.

That's the problem about drugs, if they're taking it they're confused and if they're hiding it for someone or selling it they're lying...you'll never know!

I had to ask mine to empty his pockets when coming in. How long will I last?

Drugs or porn drugs or porn drugs or porn...
I really don't know which stash would be worse to accidently discover.

I'd take it, bin it and replace it with a note that says something along the lines of "we need to discuss this. let me know when you are ready"