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I am a total wuss; I will not cope at all

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KatyMac · 10/02/2013 20:19

DD (15) is off to London for half-term to do a course

She has been poorly

She hasn't got her Oyster card but she can navigate the tube; she doesn't know her route yet but we will do it with her before she starts

She is staying with my uncle (who will spoil her)

She will be fine; I am panicking

I am officially a wuss

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njaw · 10/02/2013 20:28

You aren't a wuss, you are a mum who cares.

Remind yourself that your job is to give them roots and wings. She's off to fly which means you must have given her the confidence in everything that binds her home.

Startail · 10/02/2013 20:31

Katy I'm glad she's feeling better.

She will be fine and I'm guessing she'll be dancing and therefore she'll be very happy.

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KatyMac · 10/02/2013 20:37

She will be dancing - so she will be fine

It's me I'm worried about

Thanks Njaw - that's lovely

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flow4 · 11/02/2013 08:14

Keep yourself very busy Katy - do nice, relaxing, enjoyable and/or personally-challenging things you wouldn't normally do if she was around. Then next time, you'll associate her going away with treats for you! Grin

Theas18 · 11/02/2013 08:31

Have a hug. IT's a biggie but she will cope and learn some useful skills on the way ( regardless of the course!). You will learn skills too- a little trial in how to adapt to having her a little further away from you, but she'll still be your chick and you'll both be happy to have her under your wing at the end of the week.

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KatyMac · 12/02/2013 07:30

It'll be fine, it'll be fine, it'll be fine

I keep telling myself......I might believe it one day (probably when she gets back)

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Maryz · 12/02/2013 10:10

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KatyMac · 12/02/2013 16:47

Thank you - it seems so long ago now.....

I'm still worried tho'

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 12/02/2013 16:51

My kids are adults. DS (20) lives a long way from me but I still worry about him. Not in a way that means I interfere but in a natural, loving way. I think it is our place to worry, worrying doesn't mean you are a 'wuss', it means you love her.

And yes, it WILL be fine.

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KatyMac · 12/02/2013 21:11

Oh dear - so I have years if it to come

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 12/02/2013 21:16

It gets easier because their growing independence becomes your normality (and as a trade off you get to do things without having to plan around the children).

Maryz · 12/02/2013 21:19

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KatyMac · 12/02/2013 22:23

Oh God, my mum is the same; that really doesn't bode well for my peace of mind in the future

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KatyMac · 15/02/2013 20:16

it's getting worse Sad

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Startail · 15/02/2013 22:44

My mum is perfectly sensible, my DDad still wants ringing when I get back from their place.

I left home 27 years ago.

Maryz · 15/02/2013 23:49

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KatyMac · 16/02/2013 13:47

My mum just told me she is worried about my uncle as he might not cope

& DD is messing around with packing

Arrggghhh!!

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OddBoots · 16/02/2013 13:50

It'll be fine, from your posts she is a capable young woman. :)

Maryz · 16/02/2013 13:54

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KatyMac · 16/02/2013 16:47

Do you think £50 is enough - I thought £10 a day

Hopefully we will pay for her travel & I have provided the main bit of lunch everyday & puddings, so snacks and drinks

With £30 left with my uncle in case of emergencies

She will be fine, she will be fine

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Maryz · 16/02/2013 16:49

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KatyMac · 16/02/2013 16:51

Good idea about splitting it

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KatyMac · 16/02/2013 17:10

Not feeling any better about this........

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eatyourveg · 16/02/2013 17:23

Skype? Seeing her might reassure you