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16 year old dd has told me that she is bisexual

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milly911 · 08/08/2011 16:25

my 16 year old dd has just broken up with her first boyfriend (4 months), saying that she is bisexual. Thing is, I'm not sure that she really knows for sure. She says there isn't a girl she particularly likes and I don't know how she has come to the conclusion that she is bi. The conversation was cut short by her sibling coming in to the room and now she seems reluctant to open up further. I don't know how best to handle this, any advise?

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PeggyCarter · 08/08/2011 16:34

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milly911 · 08/08/2011 16:52

thank you for your advice. She knows that I respect her and that I'm really proud that she could tell me. I just don't want to give her bad advice when we talk again. I suppose I just wasn't expecting it and feel a bit confused myself, as you say, I'll resume the conversation as soon as we get the chance.

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Pootles2010 · 08/08/2011 16:57

Ah that's nice that she can tell you! You must be really close. No advice really, just same as Joyful - just reassure her, let her know you love her + are there for her.

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milly911 · 08/08/2011 17:01

@Pootles2010 - oh dear, your response just made me well up! thanks for support.

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Theas18 · 10/08/2011 09:49

Sexuality is such a " non issue" to me I'd have to be careful I didn't respond with " that's nice dear" but that's really what I'd like to convey without it sounding " whatever " ish !!

BertieBotts · 10/08/2011 09:53

It's lovely you were able to talk :) My mum just said "Are you sure it isn't a phase?" She probably still thinks it is - I've never actually had a relationship with a woman. I just still identify as bisexual, because I find both genders attractive.

gotolder · 10/08/2011 23:20

Both my DDs self-identified as lesbian/bi-sexual in their teens; I said that was OK with me and their DSF and to talk to either of us if they felt the need.

They both experimented a little with other girls, but in the end both have/had male partners and seem to have settled for that. I don't feel you should make any kind of issue of it, we all have to find our own way.

Muckyhighchair · 10/08/2011 23:43

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Muckyhighchair · 10/08/2011 23:44

Sorry to any bi, etc didn't mean to sound so crap.

AnyFucker · 10/08/2011 23:47

Bisexual girls are more likely to post topless pics of themselves on FB ? Confused

and hack into her FB account ?

MHC...is that serious advice ?? Hmm

Pootles2010 · 11/08/2011 08:52

MHC I've reported your post, it is one of the most outrageous I've seen on MN which is saying something.

DirtyMartini · 11/08/2011 09:01

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DirtyMartini · 11/08/2011 09:02

(That was a rhetorical question, btw)

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