My 18 year old son seems to be wasting his life, he keeps giving up on school and college he smokes both cigarettes and drugs, he is a rude ignorant man who I wouldn't dream of befriending if he wasn't my son. He is a bright boy, well we thought he was but he is just giving up another college course half way through. He cannot see past the next few days and will spend all his wages and have no money then for the rest of the month. His dad and I refuse to give him money, and this is made worse by the fact that all his friends parents are buying them cars and insuring them for their kids and they don't have to have PT jobs. We refused to pay for any more than 20 driving lessons ( An 17th birthday gift) and he failed his test so has not had another lesson since, what a waste of time, he has enough money from his PT job to pass his test but says there is no point if we won't buy him a car he cannot see that once he has his licence he can drive as soon as he can afford a car. He is a good boy, never been in trouble at school or with the police so I feel like I am moaning about nothing but I really want to shake him and knock some sense into him, what can I do when I see him wasting his life, just sit and watch him. My husband says just let him get on with it he will soon realise he is in a mess and he will have to sort it out himself, but as an interferring mother it is so hard! Has anyone else had this