Teenager hates my partner - HELP

[jackie1234]

We have recently been through a bereavement - our mother (1yr ago) and my teenager (sister) hates my partner, and is rude to him to the point of embarrassment. She resents me spending time with him and I cant even have him in the house because I know it will lead to arguments. My teen wants me to choose between them and this is impossible and I dont think i should have to. My teen has a boyfriend too and sees him whenever she likes. She wants me to be on call for her and have no life of my own. HELP. I am worrying myself sick.

:(

I don't quite understand - are you looking after your teenage sister now, in a way taking on the role of mum?

If this is the case, make sure that you set apart a time for just the two of you - make sure it's special, and make sure it's regular. Then you can chat about everything, and reassure her that you're still there for her no matter what.

She's probably feeling like she is losing you, too. When I was younger, and my older sister got a boyfriend, I was very jealous because I felt like I was losing my sister to a boy, and I wasn't very pleasant to him at first! It did get better though.

How old are you?