I have been noticing that my 14 year old DD is not as close to her friends as she was a few months ago. Over the summer break she went out a few times but not with the girls who i would class as her close friends. School started again and she is now in year 10, and i asked her how her day had been and she told me about how she had eaten dinner outside with some of the boys,and that she couldnt be bothered with her close friends.
When i asked if there was a problem at school she replied that she doesnt like how they talk about other girls and are 'boring'
Then she broke down crying saying that she doesnt fit in with any of the other girl crowds closely and that these boys are easier to talk to and be with(she isnt interested in any of the boys as a boyfriend..)
When i asked what she preferred about them,she said the dress sense,music,and no bitchiness. Also they like going into town to meet up with people from other schools and
talk and skateboarding.
I have spoken to my husband about discussed what to do,maybe moving her to another school if that is what she wants,but she is unsure as she wants good GCSE's. I dont think she is being bullied and there is no problem with her school work.
Im so confused, do i leave her to hang around with the boy mates? encourage her to befriend girls she doesnt fit in with? encourage her to be with girls from other schools? move schools? aaagggggghhh this is hard, and i feel so sad for her, i just want her to be happy.