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Felt ashamed I should be getting a tattoo

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Shootin · 28/03/2023 19:51

So I am 50 years old. When I was 42 I was involved in a RTA. Part of my left forearm is badly scarred. I have finally plucked up courage to have a tattoo. I want a pretty leaf tattoo. My family think it is a good idea. However, I told one of my colleagues and she looked shocked (she is covered in tattoos and in her 20s) and just said ‘you getting a tattoo’ followed by ‘just get a small one’. After this I felt deflated. I just can’t understand her reaction. After all one day she will be 50. Any positive opinions please?

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Menopants · 28/03/2023 19:52

Fuck her

fivetriangulartrees · 28/03/2023 19:53

I was going to say something positive and supportive but tbh @Menopants has covered it.

Original poster
Shootin · 28/03/2023 20:04

Lolol. Thank you.

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Hellocatshome · 28/03/2023 20:08

She doesnt get to have an opinion on someone else's body.

Ihatethenewlook · 28/03/2023 20:11

She’s a knob. And a weirdly hypocritical one as well. I can only assume she doesn’t think you’re the ‘type’ to get a tattoo and was a bit shocked? Anyway, get the tattoo op. And you need to show us a pic for evidence :)

Bookworms77 · 28/03/2023 20:14

I would have asked what was so shocking! She’s probably jealous of you and insecure. Nowt wrong with getting a tattoo at any age. Does she not realise she will still have tattoos in her 50s and beyond. Silly woman. She would have a fit if she saw me !
Do not let her put you off. Go for it.

DarkDarkNight · 28/03/2023 20:15

Ah forget about her. She probably thinks she is cool and alternative, but as you say she will be older herself too one day.

crumpet · 28/03/2023 20:15

Not someone whose opinion you need to feel interested in

Findyourneutralspace · 28/03/2023 20:17

Who cares what your colleague thinks? It’s your arm!

And your family (the people who count) think it’s a great idea. You should only do it for you, but if you had to please anyone who would you choose? Your colleague or your family?

PrettyMaybug · 28/03/2023 20:19

Wow, how horribly unsupportive. And nasty and negging. Horrible bint.

GET your tattoo @Shootin 😍

Pubesofsoberness · 28/03/2023 20:19

I'm going with fuck her !

PictureConsequences · 28/03/2023 20:20

Are hers going to evaporate when she's 50?! Again, fuck her!

BanditsGravyStain · 28/03/2023 20:22

You don’t need her or our opinion on what you do with your own body hin! My opinion however would agree with the first post

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/03/2023 20:22

She wants to be super dooper edgy and cool and special. If 50 yo women get them, she's pedestrian and the same as everyone else.

She'll grow and learn and become an older woman herself and cringe.

Make sure to rub it in her face and discuss internalised sexism and how ageism affects women a LOT around her.

Violetcrush · 28/03/2023 20:22

Go for it OP! Ignore your stupid colleague 🍃

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Shootin · 28/03/2023 20:23

Love these comments.
she is weirdly critical. I am a mother of 2 grown up boys and 1 daughter. Not one bit old fashioned. Like to go out drinking and clubbing (occasionally) in Leeds where I live. And yes I will post you a pic. Feeling better already.

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Marlena1 · 28/03/2023 20:24

First comment covers it!

VerityUnreasonble · 28/03/2023 20:25

Ooh yes a picture would be great! And the name of the tattooist if you are happy to share!

allthebestmumsusethefword · 28/03/2023 20:27

it will look beautiful 🌿

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Shootin · 28/03/2023 20:28

Thank you MrsTerryPrachett.
You are spot on with your comments.

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NemoandDoris · 28/03/2023 20:29

Loads of people get tattoos to cover scars. Send her a link to breast cancer survivors (mainly over 50) who have had to have a mastectomy and got tattoos to cover the scars. Tell her to educate herself…

Original poster
Shootin · 28/03/2023 20:30

Thank you allthebestmunsusefword

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Clusterfunk · 28/03/2023 20:31

Menopants · 28/03/2023 19:52

Fuck her

And then fuck her some more.

ZeroWorshipHere · 28/03/2023 20:31

Refer to yourself as inked or planning to get inked at every opportunity to wind her up

Mammma91 · 28/03/2023 20:31

I’m in my 20’s (holding on!!! Just) and I have a half sleeve arm tattoo and multiple smaller ones. In a professional job and I’m a mum.

My mum didn’t get her first tattoo until she was 46, now 57 this year I think she has 6. Enjoy designing your tattoo and bring a can of cola along on the day, enjoy and update us with pics!