Very upset with hubby

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I need help been married 46 years and found he’s been reading porn and looking at Adultwork. We never had a sex life for 15 yrs unless we went on holiday. Had to be 2 wks away and happens usually once. Moved away now new house and after being here 5 yrs we never had sex either. He said recently he wanted to get closer then I found adult work on his phone amongst other things. He admitted it and has been doing it for years. All these years not having sex I’m thinking this is the reason. I had never turned my back on him regarding sex until we moved. I said what’s the point coz we don’t do it at home. Very upset so please be kind.

When you say adult work do you mean he’s being going to escorts?

Those 15 years, have you two ever sat down about why there was no sex? What was his explanation?

I’m just unsure why this is on here - did he say he has a sex addiction?

sexless relationship, can't blame him...

There's nothing to indicate that's OP's choice.

Don’t ignore it now, ask clearly what he wants and demand honesty.
If he won’t change with real effort, you decide your limits and stop settling.

I would say that the OP implies it's his choice, rather than hers.