Best shampoo for thick, coarse, dry (and now greying) hair...?

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I hate my hair. It's absurdly thick (need a double appointment when visit hairdresser even tho it's chin length and layered) and dry and doesn't shine.

I actually have to wash and dry it last thing at night, sleep on it and GHD the hell out of it to make it even vaguely tame.

So, vent aside: I need a really good shampoo/conditioner that smooshes it flat and makes it shine. I really liked the Tara Smith organic testers from Tesco but they seem to have discontinued them at the precise moment I wanted to buy the full size bottles.

I didn't get on with MOP, John Freida or Tommyguns. I like Herbal Essences but it feels very chemical-ly. Lush lovely but not tough enough on my hair.

Any thoughts? TIA

Mine is similar though only a few greys and it does shine. It's wavy and quite curly and inclined to frizz. Also in double appt territory though. Obviously I avoid anything which claims to add thickness as I'm sure you do! I look for the word smooth. Although expensive I've found the Kerastase range excellent and at the moment I'm using one from Richard Ward which I bought at the supermarket. I'm useless at blow drying but putting some kerastase leave in stuff into my wet hair makes a huge difference to the frizz when I just leave it to dry naturally. My DD is a stage on again as hers is just as thick but insanely curly (think Kelly Hoppen or Rebecca Wade) and she has had some success using shampoo and leave in products intended for affro hair. She has mastered blow drying using a rolling brush.

Pantene smooth and sleek.

I have exactly the same hair. I use Alterna Bamboo anti frizz shampoo & conditioner. I order it from Amazon. I also wash and night then straighten it in the morning. I'm not good with the hairdryer and it seems to make it more flyaway. It's the other products that seem make the difference. If I remember to put it on when my hair is still damp, then I use Alterna bamboo kendi oil and I really notice the difference the next day. It's straightens so much easier. It doesn't have as much frizz and feels softer. If I forget to put that on, then after straightening I use Wella Luxe hair oil. It smells lovely and makes my hair really soft.

I have been using Tresemme Keratin Smooth and it very good for the price. Smooths and does soften hair something that is hard to do to my hair.