Big loser in need of shopping advice

[BigLoserBBelly]

With the increasing popularity of weight-loss injections I suspect there are a lot of people in my position now.

I am in my late 50s, have lost over 9st, which is amazing and I feel healthier than I have done for decades. But, I also have a deflated B belly with loose skin aprons above and below my waist, loose skin over thighs/above knees, a flat butt and bingo wings.

With significant weight-loss and a body I no longer recognise I don’t know how to dress. I’ve spent the last couple of decades buying from “Yours” clothes to in bigger and bigger sizes and now don’t know where else to shop and what to wear.

I am a 32H bra (that I can fit well), a 12-14 bottom, but wearing mostly size 14-16 longer length pintuck/flared tops over jeans to disguise my aprons. I did buy a Sophie shirt (navy) from white stuff which was nice but I wasn’t keen on the other patterns as lighter colours are less forgiving.

Any recommendations for places for shirts/blouses/tops that are forgiving (long or 3/4 sleeve, bum covering) and semi smart with blue/black denims for work? Appreciate any guidance where to try.

I would love to try a personal shopper at some point but don’t stay near anywhere easily accessible that I can go to.

Would a simple shirt work? If i'm wearing a shirt with jeans mine are usually from Cos and H & M with a tail. I do leave it loosely tucked in but they work equally well loose, providing they're not too long and have a reasonable shape.

The other thing I'm wearing this year a lot is plain t shirts. I usually buy Toast, or H & M because the shape and fit are good on me and navy or black disguise a lot.

I wouldn't dismiss Primark as a great place to shop. I've had some fabulous high waist barrel leg trousers from there with elasticated waists which might work for you as an alternative to denim, with a loose t shirt or shirt.

I know you haven't asked this, but you can change your bum with a lot of exercise to get it more rounded. It's all about the muscle.

Congratulations on your weight loss. It’s a shame you don’t give a budget. And your height.

You need to throw money at your new wardrobe. What you want is really excellent fabrics and expert cutting. For work I would look at places like:

https://www.studionicholson.com/

for brilliantly structured clothes that will skim the body, look contemporary and last pretty much forever. (Go straight to the Sale if necessary.)

What you want to avoid is cheap fabrics that will cling in the wrong places or hang limply around you.

For leisure - you don’t mention dresses at all, so perhaps you haven’t been wearing them much in the past? Knowing nothing of your tastes or lifestyle I can only suggest a variety of places that Do Good Dresses. See if any of them appeal. (I appreciate it may take a while for you to feel you can wear things you didn’t before. But if you find the right clothes you’ll be able to focus positively on your new figure without having to think too much about transitional issues with loose skin, etc. And I suspect a personal trainer might be a good investment at this stage.)

You should also seek out a good alterations service, which will mean you can shop more freely and get things altered to fit you.)

Eat Dust (easiest to search Dress)

Justine Tabak

Kemi Telford

Palava

Plümo

YMC

I’m sure you are intending to return to nurture your thread, @BigLoserBBelly?

Seasalt do good longer tops, also try fatface.
it might be worth getting a few bits on eBay first so you can find a size and style which works.

Hi all, sorry been awol, dh had a heart attack last month and has needed taking to out of hour doctors and we’ve hanging about hospital yesterday, now back at work this morning on catch up before a busy working weekend with a big technical system cutover. I am a bit frazzled at the moment 🥺

Thanks to everyone who has replied, I will be back when I get a chance to look at your suggestions. 🩷

Oh - I’m sorry to hear that. No wonder you’re frazzled.

If you have an apron belly would some high waisted balloon or barrel leg trousers fit ? Do you have a bit of waist definition above the apron belly? Then you can wear a tucked in or shorter/ boxy top. Uniqlo do some good ones. id Also recommend high waisted full knickers if you don’t already: they smooth out my lower stomach nicely.
Hope your DH is recovering ok x