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Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.

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DingyHall2026 · 12/04/2026 21:14

Hoping for some flattering ideas from MN style gurus.

I'm going to my niece's wedding late May, UK (home counties).

Please find me some options to wear! Ideally under £80 but can stretch to £200 for the right dreas.

I'm 5ft 5, mid 40s, size 14 - smaller on bottom half with good legs but def size 14 waist, and 32-34J chest. I don't mind showing legs or cleavage, poss not both! Need to wear a bra obv so nothing difficult to dress re sleeves etc, and I'm not mad on my upper arms so would ideally have these covered. I think I'm a typical apple shape.

I get hot easily and burn easily so helping both of these good please! Obv no idea what weather will be like. Happy to get a couple of items if necessary, eg layers.

I am open on colours and patterns. I generally suit and wear jewel tones (shoulder length wavy mid brown hair with dyed auburn in it, pale skin blue eyes) and would never wear beige or camel tones, also hate wearing any pink. I prefer slightly edgy prints and designs eg animal and geometric rather than pretty or floral, I'd love to find something I can wear again! Probably not plain colours but feel free to try and persuade me.

I definitely don't want a Bombshell dress, and nothing toooo weddingy. I'd rather be a bit too casual in something I'll wear again than uber dressed up in something which will hang in my wardrobe for ever.

I've got various bags / will use DP's rucksack! And not sure on shoes yet so feel free to add some ideas, but I'm fairly comfortable finding these myself

Huge thanks! I've always wanted to do one of these myself after seeing ideas for other people.

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Lemonthyme · 14/04/2026 14:04

Also not sure where you are but I think some of their physical stores are in the McArthur Glen outlets so you can try stuff on. Always helpful if you're trying a new brand IMO, especially with a large bust.

NoDiamond · 14/04/2026 14:31

How about Disturbia?

Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
MeetMeOnTheCorner · 14/04/2026 14:39

A halter neck for big boobs is impossible! The op needs a bra!

Lemonthyme · 14/04/2026 15:28

NoDiamond · 14/04/2026 14:31

How about Disturbia?

Ooh I'd forgotten about them. Anyone bought their stuff and found out what the fit is like? They speak to my inner 90s goth... 😂

Lemonthyme · 14/04/2026 15:29

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 14/04/2026 14:39

A halter neck for big boobs is impossible! The op needs a bra!

I suggested with a bra... You can get multiway bras that work for halter necks (not strapless, there is a strap that goes round the neck). I have one.

I've worn halters with my large chest and when it was larger still. It's more if you're confident on arms or not I find is whether it works.

NoDiamond · 14/04/2026 15:30

Lemonthyme I havn't, but I absolutely will buy & wear one of their dresses one day, to something, as I just love themGrin

Thebigarsedbitch · 14/04/2026 18:58

No single suggestion OP, but I always recommend the Brand Alley website to anyone who is looking for occasion wear. It's great for those times when you want to look both lovely and appropriate, but don't want to spend a fortune on a dress that you won't wear very often. I've recently bought a Ted Baker dress originally priced at £179 for £63 for a smart daytime occasion and last autumn I bought an evening dress from COS reduced from £135 to £30! They carry all the higher end high street brands - Reiss, Whistles, Hobbs, Wyse etc, plus lots of designer stuff including Victoria Beckham, all with big reductions, so it's always worth a look! Good luck!

Lotsofsnacks · 14/04/2026 21:00

Any of these

Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
EleanorMc67 · 14/04/2026 22:54

DingyHall2026 · 14/04/2026 08:43

Thanks April, this looks like the sort of thing I'm after. I'll browse on the site.

Thanks also for the other recommendations, lots of different ones to consider! I'll let you know how I get on

You said you get hot easily OP - so do I, so I much prefer lighter fabrics - ideally cotton/linen/silk or mixes of those, or even viscose - the main thing is that it's a light & airy type. Lots (most?) Hope & Ivy dresses are polyester. You can do a search for cotton though.

MerylSqueak · 14/04/2026 23:10

I'm a similar size and wore this to a wedding recently. I had to get it taken up though. They tell you to size up, so I did but I actually needed my usual size which was a bit annoying but I like the dress.

Teal Floral Print Waterfall Sleeve Maxi Dress – Pretty Kitty Fashion https://share.google/oeekmXPItDr1invmk

Teal Floral Print Waterfall Sleeve Maxi Dress

Beautiful New S/S Arrival EXCLUSIVE TO PRETTY KITTY! -  Stunning Teal Floral Print On A Delicate Yellow Backdrop  Waterfall Sleeve Wrap Effect Maxi Dress.  Quality Stretch Soft Feel Slinky Fabric - 95% Polyester 5% Elastane Elegant Dress Suitable For A...

https://prettykittyfashion.co.uk/products/teal-floral-print-waterfall-sleeve-maxi-dress?_pos=1&_sid=b40776eb2&_ss=r

Ophir · 14/04/2026 23:16

A few from river island

Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
EleanorMc67 · 14/04/2026 23:20

If you'd prefer to stick closer to £80, you're much better to buy something in the sale or from eBay/Vinted/Vestiaire etc. You'll get much better quality items, generally.

Having said that, as you want something at the more casual end, there are quite a lot of informal cotton dresses out there that veer towards day dress - but you could dress them up with your accessories (were you serious about a rucksack?!).

For instance, this lightweight cotton one. It comes in a million colour/print choices. I like the green, plus the midnight or charcoal with gold (these ones look dressier IMO). Gold sandals & bag & you're sorted ... One thing though is that they seem to have white buttons? I'd swap those for little gold ones ...

https://www.wolfandbadger.com/uk/cotton-annabel-maxi-dress-in-charcoal-grey-gold/

Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
EleanorMc67 · 14/04/2026 23:32

Whistles has a few options in their sale & in your size that might suit.

This one is viscose & quite floaty, so you should still be okay if it's warm. And with low heels & bag & the buttons undone to show some leg, it could look quite slinky!

https://www.whistles.com/product/floral-trapeze-shirt-dress-40252.html

Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Another wedding guest one - middle aged with tum and big boobs.
Ophir · 14/04/2026 23:34

EleanorMc67 · 14/04/2026 23:32

Whistles has a few options in their sale & in your size that might suit.

This one is viscose & quite floaty, so you should still be okay if it's warm. And with low heels & bag & the buttons undone to show some leg, it could look quite slinky!

https://www.whistles.com/product/floral-trapeze-shirt-dress-40252.html

This is about as far from slinky as you could get

Ophir · 14/04/2026 23:41

She’s going to a wedding not a summer farm
shop

EleanorMc67 · 14/04/2026 23:43

Mightn't be quite your shade of green, but I'm strawberry blonde (once ginger) with pale skin & blue eyes, & I think this colour is a good one for autumn types, which you sound like?

Better without the belt for wedding wear, & would dress up well with gold jewellery/footwear etc.

https://www.whistles.com/product/leopard-viscose-midi-dress-40485.html

Green/Multi Leopard Viscose Midi Dress | WHISTLES | Whistles UK |

Buy Green/Multi Leopard Viscose Midi Dress | WHISTLES whistles.com. The midi length and fit-and-flare silhouette further the elegant look, complemented with a tie belt to cinch the waist and a timeless V-neckline.

https://www.whistles.com/product/leopard-viscose-midi-dress-40485.html

Pryceosh1987 · 15/04/2026 00:03

You could wear a dress that the customer services people in offices wear.

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