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Help with an investiture dress

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FancyKeyboard · 28/02/2026 10:48

I'm attending an investiture as someone's plus one in May (Windsor). From what I understand, the dresses worn to these are usually smart rather than weddingy, though there can be cross over. But more block colours than heavy florals.

I have nothing in my wardobe. I am short and dumpy and not fashionable. Late forties. Size 16 but trying to lose weight. The way I carry my weight (mostly on stomach, and the fact I'm otherwise petite, means I can sometimes wear smaller sizes. Or sometimes, if something fits my waist, it will look baggy on the shoulders. I probably won't attempt a suit as I hate restrictive skirt/trouser waistbands. I know I need a hat, but think I'll buy a cheap fascinator.

Shoewise, I don't do heels. I have some flat pointy kitten heel type shoes that would fit the bill. One pair mint green, the other black. Otherwise I have wedges from Fly London that I think are smart (black, teal, red), but I have read conflicting things about wedges at investitures.

I have a navy Hope & Ivy tea dress I just got off Vinted. Like this one but slightly different colours. Too floral? https://www.johnlewis.com/hope-ivy-the-ingrid-floral-embroidered-midi-dress-navy-multi/p113294363?

And this Joanie dress I think is too wedding guest? https://joanieclothing.com/celia-birtwell-x-joanie-queen-of-the-night-angel-sleeve-floral-print-maxi-dress.html?srsltid=AfmBOorsJvF_z9sO6sHEaH2XCoujOplWVVTniKgk7GSFYbBQengHMmL2

Help! Particularly if you can find a dress that might go with mint green shoes :D.

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EllieFredrickson · 01/03/2026 13:24

I was going to suggest personal shopper at John Lewis if you decide not to go with the Hope and Ivy one which I think would be fine. I was lucky enough to go to Buckingham Palace when my mum got her MBE ( a long time ago now) and had a purple trouser suit they picked out for me. Mum got her dress there too. And yes to comfy shoes!!! Have a great time.

CopeNorth · 01/03/2026 16:34

FancyKeyboard · 28/02/2026 12:32

Invite says day dress (with hat) / smart trouser suit

@Katrinawaves you are right, they are both floral and prob not right - I'm just mentioning that I have them in a 'will one do' sort of way, but in the pictures I've found online most (but not all) people are in block colours. The phase eight is 'fine' just doesn't bring me joy but could well be worth a try if it looks nice on.

@ScoutOfTheSoftHeartsClub I know what you mean by 'sober' and I quite like the dress, but in May it could be cold or scorching, so I think I need a more summer weather dress I can add a jacket to if needed.

If it were me I’d look for a block colour dress or jumpsuit, maybe white or navy, with sleeves. I think a block colour you’re more likely to wear again if you change up the accessories and sleeves will mean you’re not faffing with finding a jacket or cardigan. Hard to guess what May weather will be isn’t it? I think a slightly heavier fabric like crepe so it sits well and feels formal, clean lines are always flattering/classic - something floaty has a habit of looking wedding/beach/cheap sometimes

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/tilliana-midi-dress-100126110685.html?utm_source=google&utm_source_platform=google_ads&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=NEST_PhaseEight_UK_EN_BoF_PerformanceMax_Growth&utm_id=23196433179&utm_content=agid_-ad_&network=x&device=m&utm_tpl=live&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23201701862&gbraid=0AAAAADumyC9a7igrBhwg07X-9AgU5vTaJ&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkM2byYv_kgMVCZGDBx2-hSSfEAQYFSABEgKkgfD_BwE

https://clubllondon.com/products/bellona-navy-high-neck-high-low-midi-dress-cl135750015?variant=54799651602805&country=GB&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23148500531&gbraid=0AAAAADCHewLfZPRd8mQbeCooUNUMW2zop&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkM2byYv_kgMVCZGDBx2-hSSfEAQYJiABEgIp2fD_BwE

https://www.ghost.co.uk/site/search?q=Long+sleeve+#?page=3

https://www.meandem.com/contrast-stitch-panelled-maxi-dress-true-scarlet-red

I’ve found Ghost and Me+em things on Vinted before

enjoy and congratulations x

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CopeNorth · 01/03/2026 16:42

CopeNorth · 01/03/2026 16:34

If it were me I’d look for a block colour dress or jumpsuit, maybe white or navy, with sleeves. I think a block colour you’re more likely to wear again if you change up the accessories and sleeves will mean you’re not faffing with finding a jacket or cardigan. Hard to guess what May weather will be isn’t it? I think a slightly heavier fabric like crepe so it sits well and feels formal, clean lines are always flattering/classic - something floaty has a habit of looking wedding/beach/cheap sometimes

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/tilliana-midi-dress-100126110685.html?utm_source=google&utm_source_platform=google_ads&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=NEST_PhaseEight_UK_EN_BoF_PerformanceMax_Growth&utm_id=23196433179&utm_content=agid_-ad_&network=x&device=m&utm_tpl=live&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23201701862&gbraid=0AAAAADumyC9a7igrBhwg07X-9AgU5vTaJ&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkM2byYv_kgMVCZGDBx2-hSSfEAQYFSABEgKkgfD_BwE

https://clubllondon.com/products/bellona-navy-high-neck-high-low-midi-dress-cl135750015?variant=54799651602805&country=GB&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23148500531&gbraid=0AAAAADCHewLfZPRd8mQbeCooUNUMW2zop&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkM2byYv_kgMVCZGDBx2-hSSfEAQYJiABEgIp2fD_BwE

https://www.ghost.co.uk/site/search?q=Long+sleeve+#?page=3

https://www.meandem.com/contrast-stitch-panelled-maxi-dress-true-scarlet-red

I’ve found Ghost and Me+em things on Vinted before

enjoy and congratulations x

I also love this https://www.meandem.com/tweed-jumpsuit-white
everything I have from Me+em is so flattering and feels like it will last forever

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Bikergran · 01/03/2026 19:26

Look at David Nieper, they have some flatteringly cut dresses.

LucyLoo1972 · 02/03/2026 02:09

FancyKeyboard · 28/02/2026 12:00

this is really beautiful and spot on. I was an academic theologian and went ot a lot of these kinds of events

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