Fat and need pants or body suit to pull me in

[madkie]

I have three big events coming up and have put on alot of weight all over but need some Spanx just to hide it for now while I try to get weight off.
I don't like where Spanx tight around mid thigh so shows you wearing.
Got wedding where I am main guest, and an event where some women that are very glamorous going to be. One of them commented to my oh once about all the good looking women around him when I was standing next to him so would like to be pulled in just for that day even if it is allusion.
Please help and advice greatly received.

I don't need emotional advice just want practical advice re product that will put me in and not be too uncomfortable and not show

Spanx do high waisted knickers if you don’t like the shorts.

If you’re wearing a dress or skirt, a firm control ‘wear your own bra’ shaper?

OP, what do you propose to wear (outerwear)?

Not control knickers or a body suit, but if yiu intend to wear a dress to the events l swear by this. I have mentioned this several times on MN, it is comfy, doesn’t ride up and practical when you go for a wee!
https://www.marksandspencer.com/firm-control-sheer-shaping-full-slip/p/clp60285048?color=BLACK#intid=pid_pg1pip8g2r2c2

Dress for wedding

and trousers other two events.

One event need to be very smart trousers and other casual trousers

I much prefer my M&S lucky in pants to Spanx. I've also heard good things about the Sloggi pants M&S have on their website but I haven't tried them.

I have these and one of those slips above.