Outfit for 40th birthday party

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I'm going to a 40th birthday party in a few weeks. It's a silent disco that includes families with young kids. It isn't going to be a very formal or dressy occasion but I would still like to look good. I've recently lost a lot of weight. I've gone from a size 20 to a 14 and for once I would like to feel fabulous, but I'm finding it hard to find an outfit at the right level for this occasion. I wouldn't say no to a dress but it can't be too short, or sleeveless, or to tight around the lower stomach area. I think separate skirt/trousers might be better? I have a nice waist, and my boobs look good with the right bra. I don't mind low cut but not so my boobs are hanging out. I would really like something that is off one shoulder with long sleeves as I like how this looks on me.

I don't want to feel over done, but I don't want to wear jeans and a top either. What would you wear? The party is from late afternoon to early evening. I expect I'll be home taking my face off by 9.

I'm 39, 5 foot 6, size 14 and need the help of a good strapless bra, and spanx. I'm very conscious of my upper arms, and don't want anything above the knee. I struggle with wearing heels so most nice outfits are ruined by my awful feet! I have a pear shape/hourglass figure. Any suggestions will be gratefully received.

What is your budget?

These a what I would wear as off the shoulder (whether one or both) isn't a look I like. These are Bardot rather than one shoulder.

The ASOS dress is off one shoulder dresses but I think it's OTT for the event.

Nobody's Child 1
Nobody's Child 2
Nobody's Child 3
Nobody's Child 4
ASOS dress

These aren't what I would wear....

If it's not too formal I'd get a jumpsuit from monki - they're very flattering on mid size bodies.

From how you've described your shape I think a v neck jumpsuit or wrap dress would be more flattering than off the shoulder - sounds as though you've got a decent bust, don't hide it!

Definitely agree on the wrap dress. I have a similar figure and they are very flattering. I
Always have my upper arms covered too

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Something like this?

I agree with previous posters about a nice jumpsuit. They can be really flattering & don’t look overdressed.

Something like this?

https://www.joythestore.com/products/louche-lyes-velvet-cropped-jumpsuit-green?variant=43697688477975&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmaxDresses&gclid=Cj0KCQiAy9msBhD0ARIsANbk0A9v5qxV2vXBNIB_bQ7CbB1kREk8TLS56nYLFtt24Ilj56CQWxxOe2QaApWPEALw_wcB

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I bought this top before Xmas and it's really flattering with just the right amount of cleavage on show. Looks really nice on compared to the picture. I dressed it up with a sequin mini but it could easily be worn with jeans or wide legged trousers.

https://www.next.co.uk/style/LS262820/L83206?dp=a&dndl=1&gadsource=1&gbraid=0AAAAADmm5UWyb3s4AmaiHF-d8HaXZceQ&gclid=Cj0KCQiAy9msBhD0ARIsANbk0A9FfvP5PTu7KmRUU5oYOOUhxuA1sZy5MuK3D3NspKC-OyAnO2nPI8aAtQXEALww_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds#L83206

I went to a similar event recently & wore a dress similar to this with tights & chunky loafers

This with sucky-in tights, boots and nice jewellery.

Yes this is the type of dress I wear and I have a similar build to the op. Not keen on the sleeveless baggier options myself on my body, really unflattering.

Some of these dresses look at bit too formal to me, although that could just be because I err on the side of casual in most situations 😁

This top? Could work with black trousers as in the pics https://www.next.co.uk/style/su179166/k73574#k73574

I bought this recently: https://www.diskokids.co.uk/collections/jumpsuits-trouser/products/ladies-stretch-jumpsuit-black-rainbow

Feels fab on and I got lots of compliments. Didn't need sucky-in pants! I'm a smidge taller than you and it's a bit above my ankle. I never thought of myself as a jumpsuit sort of a person but I'm really glad I took a punt.

Ro&Zo have some lovely jumpsuits that could work Like this maybe?

How about one of the Next tops that have been linked with a comfortable and flattering pair of trousers?

Another vote for jumpsuit from me. I tried one recently and was convinced it would look awful, but it actually suited me. I’m also a pear shape and had no problems with it fitting nicely and it seemed to even out my figure quite well.

Nobody's Child No2 looks lovely. Nos 1,3 and 4 are a definite "NO" - shirred top makes boobs look huge (imo, I have big boobs), and knitted dresses only look good on those lucky people with very taut bodies, otherwise they show every lump and bump...

Thanks so much for all the suggestions! Some brilliant suggestions here. I've been rushed off my feet today and only just reading all your replies now. I think I'll have a look at a jumpsuit or that wrap dress. I'll need to get some shoes too. I cannot wear heels due to previous foot injuries. Do you guys have any suggestions for footwear that would look good with a jumpsuit, or wrap dress?

I wore these with thick tights,high top trainers and a v top to a do recently and it worked really well. I’m in my fifties 😊

Oh! I wore a kimono top from 100 stars with them that day

@JoyeuxNarwhal I like the look of that! Sort of Dawn O'Porter/Esska vibes.

@Girlattheback I have a Ro&Zo black linen jumpsuit and I love it, would recommend.

I’d probably go with nice (flat) ankle boots. I don’t know what your budget is, but Esska have some lovely dressy but low heeled boots - https://esskashoes.com/collections

Hope you find an outfit you feel fabulous in!

This is a bargain! https://www.zara.com/uk/en/asymmetric-crepe-dress-p02712450.html?v1=301364380 wear with a nice loose belt and ankle boots?