DH's hair is really thinning. He's asked me to ask you lot for help...

[DoItTooJulia]

He's 36 and has a family history of baldness, although his dad hasn't gone bald both of his grandfathers did.

He's always had thick, lovely hair but the last 3/4 months he's noticed it getting a lot thinner and he doesn't want it to.

He's wondering about special shampoos/supplements or any top tips really.

I think he's a bit upset because he has a beard and thinks he's going to have to get rid of that if he does end up bald.

I've told him bald isn't the end of the world and can be very sexy but he's not there with it yet. He just feels too young. He's only just come to terms with how grey his beard has gone in the last 12 months! And he's hating the in between stage too-this thinning stage iyswim?

Any ideas?

I'm not aware of any shampoos that actually help - but if it's on the way out my only advice is to shave it off, don't try and disguise it.

DH started having a # 2 cut at about 32 if I remember right. He's never been bothered that he's balding, and I don't give two hoots. He's just as handsome.

and use sunscreen

I did a product test for some thickening shampoo recently and it really worked. It was a john frieda one, shampoo, conditioner and serum. I'll look and see what it was called.

Shave it off

Much better all round.

In my experience baldness it otherwise make no difference to the attractiveness of a man to women. The big turn offs are ponytails, comb overs and really desperately trying to hang on to a rapidly thinning hairstyle. All of which suggests someone clinging to the shreds of youth via a mid life crisis The confident sexy chap embraces it and does a no1 all over.

Beard and bald is fine btw. My DH totally rocks beard and bald.

He needs to go to Boots and join their hair retention programme. It's free and he can see a specialist in hair retention. They'll probably recommend he starts taking Propecia which is proven to help stop hair loss in men, it's on private prescription (£90 for 3 months supply) but he shouldn't take this if you're planning on TTC as it can be dangerous.

Let me know if you need any more help- my DH has been through this and went for a hair transplant 3 years ago and the difference in his hair and his confidence is outstanding.

Wow-that was quick, cheers!

He desperately wants to avoid the comb over/looking to disguise that it's thinning. He takes good care of himself and goes to a Turkish barbers regularly to get his eyebrows,ear hair and nasal hair done while they trim and hot towel his beard. He does keep his hair fairly short anyway.

No TTC-we have two DCs and we're done!

Yes please to the shampoo name-it's got to be worth a shot. And he does love a product!

I didn't know Boots did anything like that Dailymail no doubt he'll be checking it out!

Thanks again, he'll be chuffed I posted!

I've just read all this out to DH and he is really pleased.

He was especially happy with the recommendations and the news that beard and bald is rockable.

For a hirsute man this has been a bit of shock, and a couple of things lately have made us start to feel our age in a way we just haven't before

I feel for men who are insecure about losing their hair. It's so easy to dye over grey as a woman.

IMO 36 isnt a really young age for it to start to thin though. I agree with shaving it off, it can look really good and definitely works with a beard.

Have you seen those glue on wigs? They're quite expensive but so authentic. Not sure how well they work in every day life though,but the photos are fantastic

Jools I've sent you a PM.

Cheers Donk-pinged a reply back!

A lot of the products are just gemics. Wayne Rooney and a lot of other men in the public eye got hair plugs

My dh gets his hair cut short short and it looks better.
My bill went bald early and started shaving off what was left in his 20s. The upside is he is now late 40s and seems to have hardly aged a day....

My H gets hair shaved to grade 3.
Best to "own it" imo.
wish both men and women would look real like they really are.

Have a look into 5 alpha reductase inhibitors, which block the conversion of testosterone into its turbo charged form, and leads to excess body hair, balding and prostate enlargement. Either herbal like saw palmetto or pharmaceutical.

Forget the gimmicks,
The only product scientifically proven is minoxidil (regaine) but it has to be used continually and may get worse before it gets better.

Qvc do this
And there's a headset version!
Money back guarantee.
No pills
No idea if it works!
www.qvcuk.com/qvc.product.401278.html?sc=PSCH

Is he actually thinning or is it paranoia?

Bald and a goatee is very, very sexy I find.

Rock the bald look! Bearded, even better!

Oh yes, bald and a beard is very pleasing to the eye.

Hello. From experience I know it's very distressing for men and can cause a lot of emotional turmoil, especially those for whom it comes on quickly, or who have a father who didn't lose a hair! A lot of men also do not suit or desire a bald head. There are however some solutions. First is a drug called finasteride (propecia is one brand of this drug), which blocks the hormone that causes hair loss. This is essential to keeping the hair he already has, and prevent more loss. It does however need reading up on a some side effects can be serious. There's also minoxidil (Regaine), which helps the supply of blood to the hair cells. This is also really helpful at preventing the loss. Further to this there's concealers such as nanogen. These are really great for thickening the appearance of your hair, covering thinning spots and more. The last solution is a hair transplant. These take a lot of research and it's essential to find a reputable and world class surgeon. A good transplant can be life changing and is the best solution depending on the type of loss. The best thing to do is to join some of the hair loss forums, where you can read up on the drugs, concealers, transplant experiences and get an idea of where you are and where you are heading. It usually takes a number of approaches to get a grip on hair loss, but it can be done and it's better to act sooner than later.

On what dailymail recommended above- propecia tablets, quarter a day stops hair loss in its tracks. But just to say there's absolutely no evidence that men taking propecia has a teratogen effect to embryos/foetuses.

I feel so sorry for men whose self esteem is impacted by hair loss, it's so unbelievably cruel and unfair to lose your hair

Oh I agree, hair trimmed number 2 or 3 and a well trimmed beard.
Lush.

Believeitornot "Is he actually thinning or is it paranoia?"

Is it just me who heard that in a cartoon villain voice?

Joking aside, is it def male pattern or could it be stress? I lost hair due to stress but it grew back.

I don't know where you live, but Philip Kingsley trichology in London is great. There is lots of information about hair health too on the website.

It is thinning. It isn't terrible imo but then he's my wonderful DH and frankly would look damn fine bald, half bald, or whatever.

But those saying he should just own it and he should look real (whatever that means) I don't think there's anything wrong with making the best of what you've got. It's why I've got a shelf full of makeup! If he goes bald, he goes bald and he'll have to shave and that'll be that. But he's not there yet and I don't blame him for wanting to find out if there's a simple and easy thing he can do while it's in this weird thinning stage.

He's had some great tips-lots of stuff we didn't know about and a shampoo/conditioner that could help has got to be worth a shot given that he has to use a shampoo every day anyway!

Bless him-I do think some of you are right-we're just not ready to age damnit!