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what do you over 40,s wear for a night out?

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Theothersideof40 · 20/02/2017 20:15

So I'm 41, 5ft4 typical pear shape, blondish (lots of grey!!!).
I want to feel good on a night out with friends/hubby, what do you wear? I always seem to go for the faithfully, skinny black trousers and I nice top. Feel like something different on my bottom, skinny jeans (blue) but what blue? Coated leggings? Am I too old for a cold shoulder top.
What do you all wear?

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VictoriaMcdade · 20/02/2017 22:33

Cold shoulder tops are hideous!

What is your normal style? Where do you like to shop?

Personally I like to wear little knee length dresses, maybe with a belt? I thought binhat everyone does the skinny jeans: trousers and nice too look. I look terrible in skinnies so I avoid them and go a bit left field.

The most important thing is that you have to feel good and be comfortable!

ohgoshIdontknow · 20/02/2017 22:34

Definite no to cold shoulder tops.

Sports luxe trousers a la Me & Em?

I do a lot of skinny black jeans and top so know where you're coming from!

DameDoom · 20/02/2017 23:42

Me and Em posh sports luxe trackie pants are indeed brilliant apart from the fact the buggers need dry cleaning. Cold shoulder tops are straying in to Liz McDonald or even Jayne McDonald territory. I tend to wear leather leggings and a silk shirt, tux jacket if I am making a massive effort which is vv seldom - more often than not I just switch up my shoes and wear more lippie (am 45).
I went for dinner at a really nice place on Saturday and there was a woman of about 30 who had got all dressed up - she looked completely out of place and really old fashioned. It's a shame really, I loved glamming up in the late 80s.

SugarLoveHeart · 20/02/2017 23:45

I'm a dress person. Now I tend towards knee length, silk, nicely tailored. I've finally ditched my mini skirts...

Ohyesiam · 20/02/2017 23:57

Cold shoulder tops are good, nobodies shoulders deteriorate much with age!

busyboysmum · 21/02/2017 00:02

I'm a black skinnies nice top bikers jacket funky boots dresser when I go out too.

I often try on other outfits first but then default to the safe option.

My legs are still good so I do love a mini skirt actually but it always looks too dressy for the people I go out with sadly.

chemicalCat · 21/02/2017 08:10

I'm late mid forties and similar height and body shape to you. My legs are still pretty good. Was out just the other night and wore grey shimmery top, velvet shorts, opaques and silver ankle boots. Thought I looked OK!

missyB1 · 21/02/2017 08:13

I'm late 40s, I tend to wear a nice knee length dress (or just above knee), with glossy tights and either ballet flats or knee length boots.

If it's a more casual night out then my straight leg jeans with floaty top.

RebelandaStunner · 21/02/2017 08:31

For the pub/live music
Black skinny jeans or coated skinnies-metallic and black.
Top
Jacket
High heeled boots
For a bit posher place/meal out I would swap skinnies for a mini skirt (leather one and black and white etc)

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Theothersideof40 · 21/02/2017 08:42

Thanks everyone, maybe ill look for a dress, not sure about a mini skirt, dont think im brave enough for that!
Roll on summer always feel better then! ☺

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Bluntness100 · 21/02/2017 08:44

I'd also agree on the cold shoulder tops, I just don't like them, on anyone.

For me it's dark indigo or black skinny jeans, heels and a good sleeveless shell top.

Sadik · 21/02/2017 10:22

No to cold shoulder tops - IME they're worn by very 'safe' dressers trying to look a bit funky.
I'm nearer 50 than 40, so a bit old for you - but pub would wear black skinnies & a top (sorry!) but for 'proper'going out (gig or party) would wear something a bit more dressy - mini-dress + interesting tights/knee length boots or sometimes do the whole steampunk long skirt / victoriana blouse / corset look. I'd love to do the 50s retro glam look but am utterly the wrong shape.

MrsMeeseeks · 21/02/2017 10:44

I nearly always wear a dress - they are an instant outfit so you don't have to think about what goes with what.

AFierceBadRabbit · 21/02/2017 15:19

You're not too old for anything so long as it suits you and makes you feel good.
Cold shoulder tops are not age specific to my mind, although the young are more likely to go for them due to them being on trend. I can't see how showing a bit of shoulder has anything to do with age, if you like those shoulders...

I am 43 and wear anything from a mini with low heel tie ankle shoes, wide leg cut offs with tighter, party style top, sparkly cropped kick flares with sock boots and a good quality slouchy jumper, a dress with opaques, jeans with a dressy top, etc.

I don't dress older so much as I'm just more aware of the overall look and what suits me now. Some of those things are what I would have worn when younger, some aren't. It's a mixed bag.

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Theothersideof40 · 21/02/2017 21:27

Im on the lookout for a nice dress now, have a few but worn them all a few times! A nice blouse/top and also some new jeans, have some dark blue skinnies, but mever feel overally nice in them for some reason

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Fuzzypeggy · 21/02/2017 22:00

instagram.com/p/5MUrBcJv2p/
I think cold shoulder can look really nice if done right, as seen on wit here. Can look awful though!

NotJanine · 21/02/2017 22:31

I need help with this too. Can anyone give examples of 'nice tops'?

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Theothersideof40 · 22/02/2017 08:21

Ive been looking on Oasis NotJanine and they have some lovely tops ☺

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busyboysmum · 22/02/2017 22:45

I tend to get my going out tops from Zara. Usually I love metallic often silver and I have a grey bikers jacket and wear lots of chunky silver jewellery.

busyboysmum · 22/02/2017 22:47

Something like this.

what do you over 40,s wear for a night out?
Gah81 · 23/02/2017 00:49

Baukjen. Am a bit of a Baukjen evangelist but: gorgeous shapes, thick double jersey which holds you in, ruching in all the right places, can be dressed up or down and they last for absolute years (and machine washable!)

Michelle58 · 23/02/2017 12:29

I have a 21" grey/black pencil skirt from M&S which I have worn countless times on a Saturday night out. I often get complimented on it (even including from some from hubby! ). Match it up with "barely black" tights and 2" heels plus almost any top and it's glam but not tarty (she says hopefully ). I'm well into my 50s (that counts as over 40, right?) and feel it works. Unfortunately they don't do that exact skirt any more, but there are always similar items there. I hope that helps

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