What do I wear on a date????

[NoCapes]

I'm going on a date next week

I haven't been in a date since I was 18, I'm now 27 and have birthed 3 gigantic children
I spend my days crawling around the floor in baggy jumpers, jeggings and converse
If I go out then I go out out with friends and I wear a dress and heels
I need a middle ground somewhere but what?!
I think I'm too young to go down the 'jeans and a nice top' route but too old to wear a full on 'outfit' if that makes sense
If I'm going to start dating I need to find something that I'll feel comfortable in, but look nice and dare I say, a bit sexy? I don't know how to be sexy anymore

Help oh wise ones - I'm lost

A bit like this
but less gorgeous

I love that. Was going to suggest black, simple silhouette because it makes me feel grown up, never under- or over-dressed and just confident. Exciting for you!

River island have bkack coated leggings that are very flattering, comfy and trendy.

Those with high ankle boots and a nice top

I was in a similar situation to you earlier this week.

First date in 8 years (I'm 28) and i wore black skinny jeans and a slightly shimmery top with heels. I tried to find something I was myself in so that I didn't feel self conscious or keep fiddling through the night

Good luck with the date

I love that culottes outfit-it shows a lovely bit of leg, and looks very modern. Any full leg cropped pants would work to achieve that look.

Ah but are the culottes a bit out there? Now I'm not one to advocate dressing for a man, and I don't.But at the same time a culotte is something women love (I do), and men almost universally are put off by. How fashion forward is your boy capes?

Love the culottes outfit! Where's it from?

Why would she want to look 'cute,? She's not 5 . I'm pretty clueless OP but go for something you feel comfortable (physically and mentally) in and good luck :).

Op have you loooked at Oasis? They have some lovely things and I think they are aimed at women in their 20s to 30s, I love it and I'm 38 but not ready for Boden and Faceface etc quite yet!

What about any of these 2? I would personally wear one of my flowery dresses and knee high boots but my taste isn't always everyone else's.

What are your best bits? Everyone recommends the skinny jeans/top thing but it definitely suits apple shapes better than pears/hourglass. Shops - I like Topshop, Zara and Warehouse.

Do you have a biker jacket? I'd go for a dressy dress and leather jacket.

In the interview thread, somebody posted a Warehouse flippy black dress.The hem was lower at the back than the front. I think it looked really nice. For me, more for night time than an interview/ work but of course it depends on the work environment.

Otherwise I think black coated jeans look sexy and quite dressy with heels? I wear mine with a black knit long sleeved jumper but that might not suit for a big night out.

I don't mean cute like a 5 year old.Where I'm from 'cute' means 'nice 'as in the American usage

I agree about the culottes thing; women like, men don't.

nocapes what did you wear on your date, and, more importantly, how did the date go???

Yes yes, spill the beans, how did it go?

I'll tag her 😀 @NoCapes
Come and spill the beans! What did you wear and how did it go?????

Haha sorryyyy didn't see this!

I ended up in black coated jeans (? Coated? The shiny ones?) kind of khaki green heels, a khaki cami thing with an attached choker and I had a blazer on but only for the journey
I went with comfortable and not too far from the 'me' that he asked out

The date went really well, hes lovely I actually felt a bit uncomfortable at times because it's been a really long time since a guy was nice to me and actually seemed interested in me and what I had to say - had to give myself a bit of a shake!
But yes, as first dates go I'd say it was a good one

The culottes outfit I posted above was Megan McKenna for Miss Pap by the way, they have a few different colours
I had no idea men didn't like culottes, I love them, I'm going to order that outfit next month anyway

How lovely. Thanks for the up date. You soooo deserve some happiness and I'm glad it went well 👍

Thanks Wicks

I also really liked the culottes, just wondered about it for a first date.
So glad it went well
Go on girl!! X

I went with comfortable and not too far from the 'me' that he asked out

Good decision!

FWIW my first date went well too (tunic dress & tights). Maybe it's all about feeling comfortable and relaxed????

alice sorry I forgot to ask about yours!
So glad it went well, yes I think having an air of false confidence is the key

Thanks nige