How do I find my style? I have no idea what to wear!

[Mummythebabysbeensick]

Wandering through the sales today I realised I have lost all sense of my style (outside of work). I am on mat leave with DC2 and am emerging from the fog of reflux, endless bf and bad sleep to wonder what 'me' actually looks like now.

My work wardrobe is easy, I trolley-dash Hobbs in the sale to fit into a very 'corporate' environment but outside of work I have no idea what I want to look like.

Any ideas on how I can find the looks/clothes/outfits etc that work for me?

Hmmm I can't imagine this because I naturally seem to love some looks and hate others. Putting aside any ideas about you "should" look, are you drawn to any particular looks, colours, prints or plain, designers or celeb styles? Or any friends whose style you love - what do they wear? What's your personality like? - rebellious, eccentric, quiet, quirky etc?

There's also things like your body shape and colours - so a look on websites about those might help you gather some ideas about the types of shapes and colours that would work best. Then use pinterest or blogs to find outfits and items they suggest. And/or have a free personal shopper session, they can suggest a variety of things and see what grabs you.

Unexplained I do see individual items I like but am not always sure if they are 'me', or what I could put it with. Sometimes I think I like an item but could imagine DM wearing it, for example.

I feel good in bright colours but got totally overwhelmed in White Stuff earlier. I don't tend to wear patterns (for no good reason I suppose!). Fatface has a lot I like but I know that baggy/shapeless doesn't make me feel good. I like to be active so prefer to be comfortable but don't want to look frumpy. I am late thirties and want to look current but not too trendy.

Great idea about looking for suggestions that work for my shape/colouring. I am in decent shape but bigger on the bottom so do sometimes struggle to get trousers that fit well, and shift dresses don't always work for me. I have had things altered before which was great.

I suppose one thing that holds me back is that I really don't like shopping. I am much better at charity shopping the things in my wardrobe that I don't like, but then I end up with no clothes... Maybe I should just go and force myself to try some things on! I have used a personal shopper for a work wardrobe update before but never for my casual clothes.

Do you get ideas for complete outfits or do you find items you like and put together the outfits yourself? I have never been good at that!