I look so fat and maternal in all my clothes.

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I'm 40ish and 5'4. Not hugely overweight but a bit squishy at 9st 10. I've put on 10lb this year triying to lose it 5:2 but it's all on my upper body and boobs.

But I feel my boobs make me look crap in clothes. I'm 32ff, wear good fitted bras but clothes either hand off my chest making me look enormous. Or fitted stuff looks ill fitted and trashy.

Where am I going wrong.

Watching with interest - I am in the same boat with my clothes !

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Hmm I'm not a fan of T&S standard wrap dress for big boobs.

Also I work from home and rarely need to dress for work. However the tailored look does look the best on me.

Is there a formula for filtering down to casual every day dressing.

You need to balance your body out. At your weight and height you are far from fat though. Keep things simple on your top half and go for wider leg trousers or bootcut on your bottom half (preferably worn long with heels) or floaty/aline skirts dresses etc.

Ditto. I'd feel like Les Dawson if I put a flowery dress on. I too am 5'4" and 9 stone 10 but all excess weight is on chest and stomach, legs actually like sticks, so all out of proportion. I'm trying to tackle weight too but in meantime wear a lot of black batwing jumpers (3 in rotation) and skinny black trousers with boots. 'tis a bit depressing.

Have you ever tried Pepperberry? They specialise in clothes that fit boobs and waist with 3 different boob size per normal clothes size.

Thanks, I know I'm not fat, I have a tendency for the dramatics.

I have looked at Pepperberry and again nothing really jumps at me.

I like the idea of wide leg trousers any recommendations of good quality buys?

Honestly you're not huge. I'm 5"2 and (when not accidentally thin due to breastfeeding) carry my weight on my bust and thighs. At 9st 7oz I fitted comfortably into 'young' high street brands size 8-10 on top, size 12 bottoms, if I shopped wisely. My waist always looks small compared.

My tips are:
-basics from pepper berry (much of their shirt range etc looks old/frumpy to me at 37)
-Well cut scoop and v necks, fitted. Both tshirts and knits.
-pencil skirts with a bit of stretch (support tights or spam if you are self conscious).
-"Swing" trousers (wide with a high waist - retro repro brands do them or I've found them in shops like Monsoon) or wide PJ trousers but they must have a mid or high waist, fitted or easy to belt.
-Neatly fitted blazer style jackets and coats.
-If you want a higher neck, do. Just use a scarf or long statement necklace, wear your best bra and make sure the jumper isn't loose.
-Vests or tanks with shrug cardigans or kimono cardigans to hide "scaffolding".

...personally I find wraps frumpy. Belted shirt dresses, or "midi" length dresses with a defined waist and V or U neck are staples. Also I wear cheap jersey versions as tunics with leggings.

I avoid loose, baggy, chiffon, pastel ... All make me look frumpy and older.

...tbh I'm struggling as my body shape is currently saggy and stick like. I need some tips for that!

Fucks sake! I've just loads of weight and weigh 9stone 8lbs and am 5.4....thought I was well slim!

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Honestly I think it's where you carry it.

Exit you are! You look fabulous!

Patter Heyday - a reproduction vintage brand and Collectif do wide, feminine cut trousers.