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Do you tell other womem your beauty secrets?

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darkstar77 · 04/12/2014 03:28

I am 38 and over the past year I have had a bit of an extreme make over. I lost over 80lbs, reshaped my body with exercise and skin tightening treatments, eaten a carefully crafted diet to best support health and skin beauty, had laser treatments, seen a cosmetic dermatologist etc etc.

It has been pretty extreme but my results have been amazing and people have noticed. I have obviously changed a lot and so I do share some of it like about having a super healthy diet, great skincare and exercise but other things like laser treatments and skin tightening I am not comfortable sharing because I don't want to be judged for it. Also I did a lot of research, trial and error to find what was right for me but it wouldn't be right for everyone and I think if people see my results they might be tempted to just rush in and do the same, I know I have done that myself.

What do you think do you spill the beans or do you keep some things to yourself?

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 04/12/2014 03:33

I'd spill the beans. But in a careful way.

My beans are...

Shower twice a day.

Wash hair once a day.

Clean teeth.
Use deodorant.

Eat low carb when the wagon isn't going too fast to get back on it!

sillymillyb · 04/12/2014 03:47

I'd share the knowledge too.

I'm always in awe of other peoples tricks - I'm rubbish at girly stuff, so it's like a whole other world to me. I used to work with a load of models and seeing them in action getting ready was so interesting - I felt like I wanted to take notes Grin

WildBillfemale · 04/12/2014 07:24

Congratulations of your weight loss! no mean feat.

I answer if asked but would never suggest anything to anyone. I think it's enough to say you've been 'looking after yourself much better'

I think most of us that are into beauty stuff can tell or suspect when people have had 'a little help' beyond diet/exercise/skincare/haircare revamp.

Pantone363 · 04/12/2014 07:28

I have a very glam friend. If anybody ever asks "how do you do your hair like that?" Or where she bought something she is extremely cagey. It's v weird.

libertychick · 04/12/2014 08:30

I share it all! But then I don't do botox etc. If I had that done I might keep it quiet.

Well done on your personal transformation OP. Sounds like a lot of hard work has paid off.

chanie44 · 04/12/2014 08:50

I share products and tips.

I don't normally disclose the laser hair removal to strangers (I have hair in my face), but am happy to talk to friends and colleagues.

nilbyname · 04/12/2014 08:56

I have a cagey friend! She is nuts, she'll buy a new item of clothing and say something like-" I bpiughtvthis new top, it's really lovely, but it's weird, you won't like it." Then i will see the top and say oh that's lovely, where did you get it? Or what's it for? And she will clam right it up! It's so odd.

I share, spread the wealth!

cleanmachine · 04/12/2014 08:58

Well done op. What an achievement. So...... What's your weight loss secret? Spill the beans....

Charlieneedscoffee · 04/12/2014 09:28

Sharing is caringSmile. Well done though!

I love sharing tips & products.

KatyS36 · 04/12/2014 10:00

Wow. Well done you. I share on an is this person genuinely interested and do I trust them not to judge and/or use their own interpretation as to if this treatment/course of action is suitable for them.
Have massively benefitted from some others sharing, including on here.
I don't feel the need to explain everything on demand.
Katy

burnishedsilver · 04/12/2014 10:08

By definition if you tell everyone its not a secret.

I blab. I've had botox and can't help myself telling people because I think the whole thing is facinating. I have a few friends who are finding things tight financially at the moment. I never mention frivolous spending around them.

TakeMeUpTheNorthMountain · 04/12/2014 10:12

I would love your secrets OP it sounds like you did what I've been dreaming of doing! Well done you!

HellKitty · 04/12/2014 10:17

My friend is a beauty therapist, we went to the Mac counter last week and she was busy telling the customers and the assistants exactly how to apply make-up. Quite amusing Grin

VenusRising · 04/12/2014 14:03

I don't tell people mostly because I have unusual skin - like a teenagers, oily and prone to breakouts.
Most women I know are hitting 40 and have dry skin. My products won't work for them, so I don't tell them the exact stuff, or my skin care regime.

I haven't had Botox or anything like that, but when I was cornered by a colleague who insisted I had, I told her I had put on 10 lbs and it was the fat making my skin smooth.

IMO nonspecific information is best - a good diet will benefit everyone, but a specialist cream for acne isn't going to do much for someone with dry patches, and sometimes that information is private.

SuperFlyHigh · 04/12/2014 17:42

I have an ex-friend who is very high maintenance. Think veneers, botox etc. She only uses the best skincare.

She ruins it by sunbathing, smoking etc and she's got a delicate pale complexion.

She did used to tell me her secrets - what she used, did etc - for example she has thick curly hair but she blowdried it wavy in the mornings...

She was good at fashion but mostly her way - white jeans, vest top, biker jackets etc, Herve Lever/Leger bandage dresses but no good for me. She was always trying to get me into Towie dresses etc.

She also looked unfortunate if she tried eg peacock colour eyeshadow said it made her look tarty so she said - I believe you can put in socket line or blend or use an eyeliner in same colour you'll be ok. Same with Virgin Vie Smokey Eyeshadow Pallette - she didn't seem to make it work and envied me this but I just practised...

I'm also one of those people that will badger makeup counters get them to try stuff which they think wouldn't suit me (it does) and I ask them questions.

I'm lucky though I don't need Botox (yet) and wouldn't get it anyway.

She did seem to research her surgeons/dentist well.

SuperFlyHigh · 04/12/2014 17:43

Venus your type of skin is the best type to have strangely as you'll get less wrinkles...

My mum has similar and she's one of those looks 10-15 years younger (but with good genes too). She recently told me that at work she used to put TCP on her spots - she worked in an advertising agency. UGH re the TCP smell!

TurnOverTheTv · 04/12/2014 17:50

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2251420-Body-transformation-causing-problems
The OP started another thread in the middle of the night, I'm sure it's a spammer :-)

Rinkydinkypink · 04/12/2014 17:58

I have a lot to learn from you ladies but my main problem is the time it takes.

The things I do that I find really work well are;
Always cleanse and moisturise day and night.
Use Skin Food on a night time for face and hands.
Shower at least once a day and moisturise daily.
Drink water, eat fruit and veg and get fresh air and exercise.
Dress to suit your figure not to be fashionable.
As I get older I need good underwear!
Good tailoring and good material can't be underestimated.
Hairspray, hair drying, dry shampoo all wreck your hair if you use them everyday.
Be clean, smell clean, wear clean clothes!

Twinklestein · 04/12/2014 19:10

Of course I tell people. I really can't stand it when women have intervention and try and pass it off as 'eating well' or 'keeping fit'.

cjbk1 · 05/12/2014 19:47

Conversely when I compliment my mum on looking well and young for her age she says "ah yes but I work at it"what's that supposed to mean? that she's not naturally attractive? I'd rather she just accepted the compliment Shock

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