Ok I've fecked up- refused to be bridesmaid for sister now can't find an outfit. Any fashionistas fancy a challenge?

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Dd is a flower girl nd DS is pageboy. For many reasons I decided not to be bridesmaid and now regretting it as can't get my head round what to wear.

I am 40, size 14, 5'11 but not much of a waist, small boobs, column shape really and have blonde hair, pale skin

Bridesmaids are wearing claret which doesn't suit me.

I have beans searching the web but would love some help if anyone is up for it.

Would this Coast dress suit you? It's quite good at nipping it at the waist, the neckline is better suited to a small chest, and the colour would look great next to the claret bridal party. If you enter promo code 'apology20' it costs £108

Phase Eight Could be flattering...but you need to try it on

go to john lewis or somewhere.

dont reject more glittery evening type numbers for a winter wedding

I wouldn't wear it, but maybe you would!

I like the green Coast dress.

Amblin - I was trying to find something weddingy, do you think glittery evening is ok?

I love this...go and try it on

i think - when and where is it?

I would also highly recommend a corset for giving you a waist. I had twins and still don't have much waist (4 years on). It really works miracles. Buy it and then go dress trying-on.

i like the green coast one a lot too -a nd SLEEVES

with red shoes
www.johnlewis.com/370925/Product.aspx

I don't get it. Are you a guest at the wedding, as opposed to having a "role"? You decided not to be a bridesmaid but you want to wear the same colour as them...I am lost

Thanks MM and all suggestions Will purchase a corset and take myself off to JL for trying on session.

I bought this last week but length was wrong in me

Amblin wedding in January- church and hotel

its a nice style though.
I would think carefully about what coat you get as that is key for the ceremony.

then something eveningy afterwards - if its late on in the day

Yes I am a guest at the wedding.
I don't want to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids as I chose not to join in. She was fine with this btw- no issues about that.

I just can't find a dress I like for a winter wedding as all very glitzy at the moment and felt too Christmassy

think smart coat. then you could always hav LBD for the dinner.

phase eight have some smart coatsin reduced

Love the green coast dress

You reckon red shoes with it? I thought red and green should not be seen......

I about to order coast dress just in case I can't find it to try on in shops

The coast dress looks lovely.

This will give you a waist.
fab dress with sleeves, lovely vintage feel with these, this and this. Or, not vintagey at all this, these and this.

Notmarlene- that's genius, you are a genius.
I haven't seen that make before but will try on tomorrow. Am totally inspired now, thanks all for the fab ideas.

Play to your your boyish figure? similar too short?

Very comfortable, you'd actually be able to eat. Isn't so much fun in a corset.

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Why didn't you want to be a bridesmaid?

Because bridesmaids always look shit ?

Like the blue but I think on a 14 might look a bit tenty