Wedding. White strapless dress as a guest?

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OK we're invited to a wedding. The bride has history with my DH (going back before we were together) and at our wedding she wore a white strapless knee length dress. It was almost identical to my bridesmaids dresses.

I am sooooo tempted to follow her lead on this one and do the same on her wedding day. Someone stop me!

No darling. GET YOUR COLOURS DONE. Then pick out the deepest version of your "red." This is known as your romance colour. You will look stunning, glowing and sexy . . . and yet above reproach etiquette wise. MUCH better.

I wouldn't go to the wedding.

Wear a lovely appropriate coloured dress and a pair of binoculars in order to survey the ceremony from way up there on the moral Hugh ground.

Or even the "high" ground - iPhone is clearly distracted by thoughts of Four Weddings & a Funeral.

Of course not, don't be ridiculous.

At least 50% of that response is because a white strapless dress probably won't look very good.

Wear something fabulous that suits you, but that won't look to other guests that you are being spiteful and weird.

Oh come on! I wanted to lack class and be all possessive and start snogging DH just at the moment they say 'I do'. It would make it all so much more interesting. Surely you agree?

Well almost all the other guests were at ours and it was commented on very much at the time and subsequently so most people would get the reference.

Of course I'm not really going to do it but the temptation is really there big time.

Am liking the romantic red option.

i wouldn't wear white but i'd make sure i had a fabulous dress, and my hair and makeup was extra perfect.

no way no way no way

No - just make sure you look absolutely wonderful! Get hair and make up done professionally if necessary. And wear something amazing - I like the red suggestion above. Will it be a hats wedding? If you look good in hats, then get something great and really striking.

There can't be such a thing as a total agreement thread on Mumsnet, so I'll say go for it. And carry a massive bouquet, and wear a veil and a tiara

In fact don't go for strapless unless you know you will look fab in it, there are Pippa Middleton copy dresses flooding the bridal shops at the moment - wear one of them instead

Doesn't matter what you wear - just get DH to walk in front of you scattering rose petals

the question is - what will your retinue of pageboys wear?

I would be wearing my own wedding dress, tiara, veil, the lot.

Either that or identical to the bridesmaids, including flowers.

Usually I'd say why not? I've worn white to a wedding and I dont see a problem with it.

But as she is your DH ex (and there clearly a cow) I aggree with the others, and raise the stakes to;

Professional manicure and pedicure
Salon spray tan
Pre-wedding CACI facials
2lts of water every day (you know it makes sense).

And be soooo nice to her. You are the better woman obviously!!

then, not there. honestly i wonder about myself.

Don't lower yourself - just wear whatever will make you look gorgeous.... and don't forget to give your H a big snog during the slow dance