was this comment about what i was wearing rude?

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I am probably being way over-sensitive, (have my period, tired from working extra days and extra hours for last 3 weeks) but this has really annoyed me today.

Wore this dress today for work with black opaques, plain low heels and this belt and a pashmina looped round my neck. As I took my jacket off my boss (male mid 40s) pipes up

"Gosh you are brave wearing that on a chilly day like today"

What exactly was wrong with what I had on, found it a really weird comment, it was hardly a flimsy summer dress, the skirt is probably a bit shorter than I normally wear to work but not indecent and had opaques on and the dress code is quite relaxed. Was it his way of saying he thought it wasn't appropriate?

Goodnesss, no, he was saying it didn't look terribly warm. Not that is wasn't appropriate.

Lovely outfit, btw - LOVE the dress.

I think it was just a very crap attempt at small talk. Looks lovely to me!

I'd have thought he meant if its chilly you may get ahem a little issue with your nipples - but that could just be my twisted mind and left-over paranoia from a mother who used to sellotape hers flat so as to avoid that issue!

I think you would have looked lovely.

May he have been making a comment about nipplage in the cold weather?

Love the dress and belt. Perfect. No need for concern or comment!

I think that's a great dress for work.

I would translate his comment as 'that's a very pretty summery dress and gosh isn't it cold today' or something like that. I don't think he meant to be rude, just that he thought you might be cold (though I'm not sure why he was worried about that!).

Thank you

Nipples definitely wouldn't have been a problem as had padded bra on underneath...! Glad to know my boss is concerned about my nipples...

Really? Nipples?

Jeezo. He was making inane small talk surely!

I would prob feel cold around the neck and chest area in that dress at this time of year. And bare forearms, brrr. But then my office is generally cold even in summer. Is your office warm?

I wore a silk dress with NO TIGHTS this week. Your boss would have probably had a coronary. I am acknowledged as a snappy dresser at work however

It's a bit of a weird comment to make though as you were wearing tights and a scarf [cconfused]

I don't show my nipples btw as office is tropical.

I would take it as an attempt at small talk - nothing more.

It was small talk. Not great small talk, but small talk all the same.

I used to have a dress just like that from Warehouse when I was a student. :)

Actually I don't remember noticing anyone's nipples at work, except for one time when a colleague showed me his nipple ring.

That was visible through his shirt - a nice vest was required.

it's a very summery dress.. men don't notice things like opaque tights.. how cold was it where you are? it's warm and sunny here and would look nice but i would maybe say 'you look summery' to somebody wearing a summer dress on a cold and wet day.

come to think of it he is a bit cr@p at small talk...

MissBehiving - he probably would have had a coronary - what is it about offices, mine seems to vary in different parts of the building, it is tropical where I sit but then I walk into another part of the building and need thermals and hat, scarf and gloves!

i think it looks more summery in the picture, it is quite heavy silky viscose, i actually think it would be quite hot to wear on a really warm day!

I'm sure it was nothing to do with nipples - its just the chilly comment - well when I was younger all the boys loved this weather because of the abundance of girls in thin dresses on chilly mornings.

But yes - am sure your boss didn't mean this - well I hope not.

I think he liked your dress, wanted to say something complimentary, and then a load of old nonsense came out of his mouth.