at 45 can I?

[teahouse]

wear a mini skirt occasionally (only with black tights)?

keep my long hair (often just in a pony tail as I can't afford a hairdresser)?

start to wear a bit of make-up (not really done it before)?

continue wearing stupidly high heels most of the time?

continue to avoid boring lingerie?

continue to avoid slippers?

continue to pretend I'm not middle-aged?

yes yes yes yes yes yes and yes

absolutely

Yes to skirt, if chosen carefully.
Yes to hair, but might look cool short.
Make up tricky, but manageble, if you concentrate.
No to high heels
Yes to spicy lingerie
Slippers are good////
Middle age is fine

Yes to all. I'm surprised you had to ask.

I'm 44.
I wear mini skirts on the basis that my legs are my only remaining good feature and I'm going to show them off regardless of age. At least for now.
I have long hair, but I tend to wear it up most of the time. I think wearing it down is fine.
I am never knowingly without a fair bit of slap.
And the rest - yes, of course, if that's what you want to do. There's a lot to be said for denial :o.

Yes.

Of course.

Resounding yes here too.

yes to all except the long hair

I am 45, my hair is short and chic, I don't like long hair on women over 35, tbh

I wear slippers though !

I would. Have you nice legs and nice hair? then yes.

no to the mini skirt, short skirt maybe if you have great legs but def not mini. Shoulder length hair is fine but not long in my opinion and yes to the rest! Although slippers are cool! lol

Yes. The same rules apply whatever your age, does it suit your personality and your body. I've seen loads of teens, 20's, 30's looking great in such clothes, but also more than many looking a bit ...

I'm 40 and have long hair, it'd look a frizzy mess if I tried the short chic look. Shame as it'd suit my face, and I'd like a change, but long suits my hair + luckily my face.

I can't wear high heels due to a physical problem, but if you can why not? I'd love to wear silly, pretty, high heeled shoes. I'm in the situation where winter is great for me with a wide selection of long flat boots. Summer comes and I'm I can't even get away with ballet pumps.

Hi Teahouse

I'm 46 and yes - absolutely!

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Long hair great as long as in good condition and styled. So that's no to scraggy pony tail

And no to high heels with mini skirt, but ok otherwise. As long as your back holds out

sort you hair out and it's a yes to all. you don't need to spend a fortune to keep it in good condition. have it cut in a style that doesn't have you back at the hairdressers every four weeks, so no fringe. rinse once a week in white vinegar and cold water as often as you can stand it. have it coloured in a shade that is as close to your natural colour as possible to avoid terrible dark regrowth. if your natural colour is grey and you don't want to go that light, use home hair colours but again, be sensitive to your skin tone.

I think you know you don't need anyone's permission or approval

Woman, even if you were 60 i would say YES to all of the above.

People on here are so blimming conformist, " oooooh you MUST have short streaky hair after 35, Oooo you Must wear per una length skirts after 40." WTF

What a stupid op

what does the white vinegar and cold water do booyhoo?

makes her smell like a chippy

The age rules are stupid because they are a line in the sand which may be nonsense for any individual woman.

I have longish hair but it is very well cut and coloured every three to four weeks and is layered so not 'hard'. I tried having it short. Didn't suit me at all.
I am 49

wear a mini skirt occasionally (only with black tights)? YES

keep my long hair (often just in a pony tail as I can't afford a hairdresser)? YES but only if it is impeccably clean and styled

start to wear a bit of make-up (not really done it before)? You should have done this long ago

continue wearing stupidly high heels most of the time? Can be very aging to wear uncomfortably high heels - you will look more youthful running around in flats

continue to avoid boring lingerie? YES

continue to avoid slippers? Why?

continue to pretend I'm not middle-aged? You aren't

depends what you mean by long hair. Alice in Wonderland straight and boring only suits teenagers/20 yr olds.
Shoulder length and looked after looks good on lots of people- think Twiggy aged 61.

As for the rest- yes! You are 45 dear, not 85.
When did anyone stop wearing high heels at 45?

But not with a mini skirt or you will look like a slapper.

Am curious to know why the OP is against slippers???

the op is a loon

" shall i continue to avoid boring lingeir" really means look at me i am so amazing

At 45 you are a fully grown woman and can do what you want in regard to S&B

I'm 41 and do all of the above (apart from the heels which would kill me!)

I also now have lovely swishy, shiny hair to my waist thanks to a brazilian blow dry :o

I do all of those and am 45.Only do short shirts occasionally although I have good legs I think they can look cheap!Although I don't mind short jumper dresses