I really dont like DSS

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I will probably get obliterated for this, but I just really dont like dss.

He's 14, rude & disrespectful, lies, is dirty, doesnt wash or brush his teeth (or hands after the loo)

I literally go round with dettol spray on handles & anything he may have touched.

I just hate when he comes over.

Me & dh are happy and i obviously dont want to and will not end things because of this, but it is quite bad. We also have a dd which means dss is linked to her and i HATE that.

Anyone else been in this situation?

My plan is ride it out for a few more years then he will be older & less dirty hopefully less rude.

Another issue is dh wants to buy a 3 bed so he will have his own room again like before dd. We cant really afford it but prob could in a couple years, im honestly just avoiding that i case he asks to move in!

Although I would question - where has your husband provided for his child to sleep? He is the child’s parent and has a responsibility for him, but it sounds like you all live in a two bed home, so where does his child stay and store his belongings when he is at his second home?

So he's a teenager with no room at his own dad's house because he got shunted out in favour of his new sibling. I feel really sorry for this poor boy, why is no one adequately parenting him? Does anyone actually give a shit about him?

Okay so... I can see this being me in a year or so. I'm barely holding on with my SC and he's 10. Hes unhygienic, rude, no manners, literally irritates the hell out of me and I hate him coming. I've learnt to speak up and tell him what's unacceptable. If it's annoying you then speak up... don't leave it to DH to pull his finger out. It's your house... speak up and tell him what's unacceptable. X

Tell me about it I was fuming but I keep moaning at him and he’s getting the message!