For those that didn’t read the thread yesterday long story short OH had a secret child that he technically didn’t know about as OW told him the baby wasn’t his and she’d done and DNA with someone else… OW came to me when our little boy was around 10 months old and told me, little girl was only 18 months at the time, when he met this OW we wasn’t in a seriously committed relationship as I didn’t want one then… anyway I spoke to OH last night as it’s been around 4 months since we last spoke to OW as OH and her decided they would leave things untill the child was old enough to want to know her dad if she wanted too as OW doesn’t want him involved as her dad, I think about it everyday so I came on here for some advice. Spoke to OH last night about how I was feeling and asked if he would somehow try and see this little girl. He said he wasn’t prepared for all the drama that comes with it to contact the OW and as he is happy to tell her when’s she older that things were complicated and he didn’t know she was his child to start with… iv told him I will be leaving him because I can’t continue with our ‘family’ knowing there’s a child he doesn’t see. Now I’m thinking do I contact OW and arrange for the two baby’s to see each other maybe a few times a year just so they do partly grow up together because I doubt OH is going to arrange anything or try and get contact because he’s just being scared and a coward so they won’t know each other until they are older or do I just leave them alone now and move on with my life with my son and give him that choice when he is old enough too… Thankyou for any advice in advance x