Hi all,
I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now. I am 25, no kids etc. Very complicated but we moved in together before I met his kids (no judgement pls, lots of factors). He has 2 kids (3 and 4) I met them for one day in March which was great. Plan was to gradually spend more time with them.
He has them every other weekend and half of school hols.
Since lockdown we've had them staying for two (separate) full weeks- this wasn't planned but could happen as we are both not working. I am feeling totally overwhelmed and I am half way through the second week. I would not have chosen to be here for the entire 2 weeks if I could, I would've gone to stay with my family. But due to Corona that hasn't been possible. It feels totally out of my control- perhaps why I am struggling.
I know the kids need to come first and he needs to see them, but I feel like I've been dropped totally in the deep end. I'm not suggesting that he should've done anything differently, I'm just wanting some advice on how to cope.
I've had numerous crying meltdowns and I'm trying my hardest not to make it into a negative experience.
One of the hardest things is that the 2 kids still come into our bed every night and wake us up- I then get so worked up and can't sleep. I'm sleep deprived and not able to relax but desperately want my other half to have a good time with his kids. He's great with them but he's struggling with the fact that I'm finding it difficult.
What do I do?
POSITIVE advice please.
Thanks x