wouldn't youse rather be single...

[broodynmoody]

.. Than put up with all the shit? I mean whatever it is, the ex the step kids the way your dp is the financial strain..wouldn't it be better to be om your with your children and not have a dp and his kids to look after?

The way I see it is it's bloody hard work. But hugely rewarding.
Also my partner makes me feel loved like I've never experienced before and that in its entirety is worth all the 3am wake ups, going to the park for the umpteenth time and putting someone else's child first all the time.

Maybe then it's my partner. He is good to me in the sense if i want something he'll get me it but hes not romantic. He doesn't tell me he loves me unless i say it. He doesn't lean in for a kiss until i do. And when he was sat there last night infront of my friends saying how a attractive woman who worked in our local bank came onto him and that she was 'mint' but he refused her..and insaid i wonder if she will get up during the night and change your sons nappy and hes response is "well i don't ask you to" it does make me wonder.

I could be but why would I be if he makes me feel amazing, beautiful and amazing. I could be with someone who doesn't have children who beats me. I take on his child because I love him although it is the hardest thing ever.

Sounds like your partner. Have you sat down and had a proper, non confrontational talk about how you feel?

Your joking arent ya? Hes very immature and stubborn. He can't take criticism at all especially if its about the kids. We can't resolve a anything cos he'll lose his temper or tell me to shut up.

Then looks like you've put your finger right on the point, doesn't it?

It's not relationships with parents that are the problem, it's relationships with tossers.

Broodyn he sounds like a dick. Being a SP is difficult enough without at least appreciation and love from your DH. Sounds like your issues as an SP are only exacerbated by him being a shit partner. TBH I think if you had no SCs he would still be a thoughtless dick. I feel for you. In answer to your question, I wonder it every day.

Can't say I'd be here if I didn't want to be!

(here with him, I don't want to be single!)

'We can't resolve anything cos he'll loose his temper or tell me to shut up'

Sorry weren't you the lady considering having a child with this person? Do NOT do that.

My gut reaction answer is you need to ditch this guy NOW before you get attached to his kids, and you will. Who the does he think you are the unpaid au pair? This is not how a person who loves you treats you. Forgive my very very blunt words but you seem like a really nice person, and you can do a lot better than this aggressive man child.

I agree I wouldn't bother with a man with kids, I got suckered in by absolute passionate love and now I feel the same about our child his ex is just like a buzzing mozzy who stops our happiness being 24/7 but generally only mildly features on my radar when I feel furious hate when she hurts her own child with her screaming and immuturity. Otherwise little breaks our happy family bubble and we all couldn't be happier