AIBU DSS using my bedroom as an extension of his for wifi

[LadyHH]

That's it really. He is 16. He doesn't get a good wifi signal in his own room, but him sitting in mine is doing my head in! Why doesn't he just sit downstairs??

Can you relocate the wifi thingy?

No, his room just seems to be in a blackspot. If we moved it we'd lose it from where it's needed by all of us for laptop, TV etc. would it be UR of me to ask him not to go in my bedroom for this? Testing your views before raising with DP who usually considers any such requests as scathing criticism of his pfb.

No way.

I wouldn'tn't want any kids in my bedroom.

He needs.to use it down stairs or do without.

Get a wifi signal booster. They are pretty cheap.

What exactly is it that bothers you? I often find my dd lounging on my bed on her tablet but it doesn't bother me (unless I'm up there trying to get some peace).

I feel it's "my space" that it is the only place in the house that's mine. I do everything for everyone in here. Feel like the housekeeper sometimes and lack of proper respect for me. This just feels like the last thing that is mine isn't either.

Wifi Signal boosters are pretty cheap and they do help - one sorted our blackspot.

But no, wanting your own space that's yours and yours alone is completely reasonable. Hang on to it.

I wouldn't want a teenage male, that I'm not related to, hanging around in my bedroom. It's intrusive and unnecessary.

YANBU. Imagine if you did the same to him - chances are he'd be very unhappy about it...

A signal booster, or one of these, will solve the problem
www.pcadvisor.co.uk/test-centre/network-wifi/3490638/5-best-powerline-adapters-2014/

....it's not worth arguing about because it's so easy to fix

....lack of respect and feeling like the housekeeper suggests bigger problems, though?

Be careful to say that you are doing this for him, not you, if you want to avoid bad feeling.

Obviously, if there are other issues this may not work, but 16 is a difficult age and it is always best to pick your battles.

So - say to DH and DSS that you understand it must be very inconvenient not being able to have wifi in his room, so you are going to fix it.

They will both think you are thoughtful and kind.

Get a wifi booster.
My room is my space (and DH's of course) Not for kids!!

Thanks for replies. I had tried a dongle years ago, but no doubt much more advanced now. Esp thx for the link wrdy

Will have to move on this quick - as tonight it appears he has progressed to "doing some exercise" and has left a pair of socks on the floor - in MY room!!

YANBU

I adore my teenage sons but I would not be happy with them doing this

Sit in his room, eating chocs on the bed and throwing the wrappers on the floor.

And maybe do a bit of leg waxing.

Is your house noisy? Maybe he wants to be alone in the quiet.

It wouldn't bother me personally. Would it bother you if it were your own child or is it just anyone

Get a signal booster as many have said, job sorted.

Signal booster or not, get him out of there. WTAF.
Imagine if you read a novel and did pilates in his room...

Ha ha PigletJohn

Quite, it's your space. YANBU

Yanbu. Get a wifi booster but in the meantime ask him to stay out of your room. No way would I expect any of the kids in my house to do that, step or not.

Get a tp link for his laptop or one or two of the plug in boosters, I have a big house with blackspots and they do work.

And really, it's not a child/stepchild issue. My bedroom is my space, tidy, clean and my own children do not hang out in there. That's what their rooms and communal rooms are for.

Get a booster yes, but it's unacceptable him helping himself to your bedroom regardless. Presumably the signal is fine elsewhere in the house, in which case why your bedroom rather than downstairs?

agree YANBU.