Those bittersweet moments when your child's (NT) younger sibling does something your SN child has never done...

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Just watched with amazement as DD2 (almost 2) just picked up a teddy, got a sponge and 'washed' the teddy all over. DD1 (3.6) has never done that sort of thing.

It's a weird feeling, isn't it? There's pride for the younger sibling, but sadness for the SN child.
DD2 flies around on her bike, steering/braking ;etc - dd1 can barely pedal. It's heartbreaking to watch her, yet I am fascinated watching dd2.

DS2's soft toy has had the whole Bath,Pjamas Milk ,Story and Bed routine. It is quite eerie hearing him read 'Three Little Pigs' to his toy. You realise that he will grow up and be independent one day.

And yet...DD is now 5, and today in the car was telling LaLa and Po off for eating a bonbon she found on the floor. First time she has done that. OTOH, I just toilet trained my only-just-two-year-old in two weeks, and it took me about 2 YEARS to train DD, if you include pooing!!
They get there, it just takes them longer...
Also, re. the bicycles...Well, DD can't bicycle, but she's doing really well with the tricycle we bought in a car boot sale for DS (it's a proper metal one, too big for him, and a bit small for her, but it's LOVELY to watch her pedalling round!)

pleased for you , dont knowif its harder watching that or other way round i seen my other lder 3dc do things that know ds will never do

Yeah, it all sucks, doesn't it?

My Aspie is the middle child and as I've been watching dc3 like a hawk since birth I know he's not on the spectrum. From just a few months old it was clear that he loved me and wanted me to know - that was the first big difference to me. He's only 1 next week but he's so not alien iyswim, he's a real earthling. Now that he's answering back and dc2 has learnt that babies need extra eye contact, they have really started to bond.

dd (15 months) has started answering questions with a very emphatic "no!" or
"yes!" while ds didn't say "yes" until he was 3 and will only answer questions intermittently. it's clear that dd is tuned into us, rather than her own little world, as ds is.

I know what you mean. It's lovely when DS2 picks up my moods from my facial expressions and asks me if I am sad. DS1 gets it but everything has to be 'bigger' and in his face before he clicks. Conversely though it still amazes me that DS2 who finds many things quite easy, still cannot operate videos, computers, electrical equipment that DS1 was doing at 18 months.