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what are the most strange or funny things people have said to you or asked you about your child?

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anniebear · 21/02/2009 07:17

I mentioned in another post that some one asked me when DD was 3 if we would put her in a home when she was older .....never forgotten it!

can't believe anyone would ask me that!!!

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bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 07:58

it gets mentioned alot about the fact his clever and all the amazing things others have done that he might do

what will he be like when his older????

does he have amazing skills

cant think of anything really bizarre at moment but i know its been asked lol

bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 07:59

just thought of one will he look normal and be like everyone else

he looks perfectly normal and isnt that different just struggles

TotalChaos · 21/02/2009 08:52

oooh I've had the "savant" one too -

Me - DS knows his alphabet

Friend - OOh my boy doesn't, that's dead clever, hey, maybe your boy is one of those autistic savants

(ROFLMAO!).

friend is normally ace and gets it right, this was a rare occcasion of her dropping the ball LOL.

5inthebed · 21/02/2009 09:21

My brother once asked, "Is he really good at sorting things like cards and stuff in the right order"

"Why yes, I often leave him in charge of sorting my washing out "

My mother, annoyingly, asked me the other day if I was keeping ds2 in nappies so that I could keep claiming DLA

bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 09:44

5inthebed what a thing to say

oh yes i dont want my son to have any danger awareness, communiction skills , sleep so i can keep claiming

some people but your own mum saying that me

bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 09:45

well some people moan about my ds claiming you wouldnt know anything was wrong with him seems they give it out to anyone these days etc

yes the fact he can run off and get run over , poor communication doesnt sleep oh and has autism seems perfectly normal doesnt it

Tclanger · 21/02/2009 10:01

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bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 10:03

ooh ive had that comment Tc train ds be more strict etc some people are just so ignorant they dont have time to get there facts straight there to busy setting the world to rights

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drlove8 · 21/02/2009 10:44

yup ive had that too, "you need to be more strict with her"- from some old baggage at a bus stop once.to which i quickly replied " isnt it a shame the old folks home have let you out on your own , when your clearly going senile"- (was pretty nasty of me, but was wrong day for anyone to comment, 4 days in row with no sleep will turn anyone psyco... most often i get are you from the childrens home-(but i think thats more to do with the number of kids i have, rather than dd4 and ds3)- reply to that is ,"no - i just like bumping uglies" lol

glitteryb6 · 21/02/2009 11:05

oh anniebear ive had the "putting him in a home when hes older" one as well, not very nice!

5inthebed · 21/02/2009 11:07

Bubblagirl, my mother just doesn't "get" ds2's autism. She can't understand why he is still in nappies when he is 3.6. She always moans about it when I have to change his nappy at hers, sometimes very offensivley. Yet she doesn't flicker when my nearly 5 year old neice wets herself (nothing wrong with her, just plain lazy). My neice could be sitting on my mothers knee and wet herself, and she would make out as if nothing had happened. Yet if ds2 has a poo, she goes mad. She really grinds on me, we have had umpteen arguements about it.

Drlove, wish I could come up with whitty comments like that when I'm out and about.

bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 11:28

5inthebed its a shame your mum is like that my ds was also in nappy's at that age and did get comments

he still is every now and then as he suffers really bad with constipation and has to be made to have diarrhea he is 3.9 and people do look down there noses but i pay no attention

great there children function normally but my ds can do alot things there child cant do but im better than that to turn it into a competition

i do have one so called friend who's son is 3 mths older than mine turned her nose up when i said ds wasnt dry at night

kindly pointed out my ds was dry in the day before hers and her ds was in fact older than mine

she didnt say anything after that

HelensMelons · 21/02/2009 12:36

A couple of things stick in my mind. MIL and SIL's comment that DS2 is 'catching up' with his cousin of the same age. His cousin, obviously, being "so far ahead for his age". That irks me, I wish I could say something cheeky back to them at times!!

I think the one on my mind most I only discovered a couple of weeks ago. DS1 (9) was talking about a birthday party we had for him 3 years ago and 2 of his friends from school asked him "What's wrong with your brother?". We don't look at DS2 as having something 'wrong with him' and I think this really hurt DS1's feelings. He never wants anyone from school over to play. I'm not sure what to say to this because I imagine that it is something he will be asked in the future also. How does anyone else deal with the word 'wrong'?

bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 12:48

when it comes from a child whats wrong is just a question not insinuating that anythings wrong

ive been known myself to say oh whats wrong but not because i think its wrong but just figure of speech

i would just ignore the word itself and just think well is there a right way of asking someone id much rather be asked than have people being rude

Woooozle100 · 21/02/2009 13:12

will she get better.. is there a cure

will she ever talk / walk etc

its nice that you love her anyway

oh well - 2nd time lucky (re seemingly nt dc2)

hereidrawtheline · 21/02/2009 13:33

I am at 2nd time lucky! That is awful!

pagwatch · 21/02/2009 15:29

The one that always makes me is when I tell people about DS2 I often get
"oh what a shame - and he is so handsome/good looking too "

I always wonder if they realise that they are suggesting that it is fine for ugly kids to develop autism.

I did once say that to a woman who had been particularly rude and stareing....

bubblagirl · 21/02/2009 16:04

pag i have had the oh what a shame he was so lovely erm he hasnt changed his still him how does it not make him lovely

and i also get yes i know someone else with a child like him

Mitchell81 · 21/02/2009 17:06

I have had at least she is pretty!!!!!

Phoenix4725 · 21/02/2009 18:15

pagwatch we get the same thing , like being cute, hndsome going help him with his talking

hereidrawtheline · 21/02/2009 19:03

I told someone that DS was probably originally a twin & I lost the other one very early on. She said thank god though can you imagine having two of DS! I was horrified on many levels I can assure you. Plus although he is a lot of work I really do think my DS is the best thing EVER and wouldnt think it would be a bad thing at all if he were cloned! Not that a twin is a clone but you know what I mean. I adore him. Wouldnt let him out of my sight.

springlamb · 21/02/2009 19:07

C A N H E T A L K ?!?!?!

To which ds replies, with my blessing

'Yes he can and he wishes you'd fuck off'.

mshadowsisfab · 21/02/2009 19:13

springlamb been advoiding sn, glad I popped in and saw that..... brilliant

5inthebed · 21/02/2009 20:33

LOL Springlamb. I'll have to teach my DS2 that one!