our sw is really pissing me off

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we are now entering transition. dd is 13 so theya re starting to talk about what will happen after school.
when I saw the sw to talk about it. I tild her that we want dd to stay at the school seh is at now untill she is 16.
cue some coments about parents assuming their children will go to nursery at the school and then stay at the school.
I dodn't really click at the time. but thinking about it she was being very neagtive. talking about how dd's school is private(it is an independant school) and how it is the expensive option, and the there are other cheaper options.
yes there are but why swould I move a non verbal wheelchair bound young person, form a school that she has been at scince she was 2 and a half. where everyone knows her and her needs. where the staff know all about cp and the knock on affects. where they support not just the pupil but the whole family ........just because the other option is cheaper.

blimey would think you were expecting her to pay for it (I mean it's not even her department paying is it...).

sorry my spelling was crap, should have previewed.
she is the first proper social worker we have had(others were assistants) and I will swing for her if she keeps this up.

Every other child in the country is able to stay at their school until they are 16 or in many cases 18.
Surely even mentioning that she should be moved on the grounds o her disability & finance is discriminatory.

She sounds like she needs to quickly get some understanding.

Can you tell her you are pissed off?

anonandlikeit thank you that is a good point.
I am sure it won't happen. dd's school will fight to keep her. and it is over 2 years off. but I just hate the idea of having a fight on my hands.
I have emailed her and let her know I ma not happy.
I am also going to bring it up at dd's annual review (in hope that the school will help) and I am lucky to have some expierenced parents to advice me. but it just maked me angry.
We were also discussing respite. dd has respite at her school. and yes it is expensive, but it is the option that meets all dd's needs and all ors.
yet once again she was talking about cheaper options.

yes, it is no secret that they are short of money. but that is not your problem, you have enough problems of your own and generally they do not go away at 5pm and over the weekend.

I agree with anon about the discrimination point.

friends of mine have a daughter with asd and learning disabilities who they still foster as social services pay for her special school which is F A B for her and parents. if they would adopt her they would lost that support and she would have to leave the school for lack of money. some things just do not make sense.

even worse chances are she will long be replaced by another sw b the time this issue comes up.

Did she tell her there were cheaper options?

Tell her there are more expensive options as well if your family ends up unable to cope because your dd is traumatised by having to move school and you can't access appropriate respite.

good points
I feel so much better now I have some come backs