sorry nicked the idea of another thread, but come on what things do you give into that a parent of a nt child

[2shoes]

would never do(this is not a thread about a thread) just fun.

for me
chocolate biscuits for breakfast and quavers.
as many rolo puddings as she can eat(ok 2 at a sitting)
no school uniform as she refuses to wear it.
I am sure I will think of more

He sometimes gets sweets (starburst) as a reward for brushing his teeth - probably that would sound really weird to the Stepford mums.

I sing whilst cleaning dd's teeth in the morning. she has one of those HSM toothbrushes up stairs but it was so expensive I don't want to use it twice a day so I sing instead

I allow dd to eat whatever she wants, whenever she wants.
I let her stay up late if she refuses to go to bed.
I let her wear whatever she wants within reason She's been known to create her own fashion statements
I give in and end up buying toys/sweets/etc that i wouldn't normally buy.
Oh the list goes on and on....

OMG 2shoes, does the toothbrush SING? I don't think I could listen to that so early in the morning!

Food.

Sitting at the table (for ds1- not ds2 or ds3)

And whether lights are on or off.

yes it does HSM. she went very anti having her teeth cleand so I got it and now she is fine.

ds2 naked in the garden alot! Or pyjamas all day.
No coat in winter.
The same tv programmes over & over.
Bread & butter for bfast lunch & dinner or occasionally hot dog sausages for br'fast.

To not reply when someone speaks to him, because he can't always.
To constantly have a blanket over his head when out.

DS1 is allowed to have books, magazines etc at the table whilst eating.

Also when at home during the holidays he has the sole use of the television remote control which means that we watch a constant loop of sky box office previews or some dodgy tv bingo channel all day long, when at home.

He can eat what he likes, although that is next to nothing in terms of variation, as his diet is so self limited, tbh I would love to see him eat a sweet or a bar of chocolate (milkfree) like his peers, even if once in a blue moon.

Sure there are many more things, but my mind is blank right now.

More than one packet of crisps a day

Eating with fingers

Standing with his nose on the TV screen blocking everyone elses view

Nose picking (though I do try to stop him if someone is watching!)

Actually this is making me feel sorry for DS1 - we're quite strict with him - and he never compares or complains.

Slapping the TV screen - one of DD's favourite passtimes! The screen is covered in little paw prints, but about 2 weeks ago she got to it with one of her toys and screen is now cracked! Good news is it is covered by insurance and we also ordered a screen protector so when we get the new TV it will hopefully last a bit longer...

Sorry IWEARFLAIRS but lol at you singing Ooh Ma Paloma Blanca, ds 2 has a bed time song, currently save all your kisses for me - yes i'm that old!

Getting up and down from table during meals

Toy cars/trains/buses on table during meals

Sweets

I don't pus him to talk to people, he can't answer open questions or join in flowing conversations well.

He often stays in pjs a slippers.

He watches dvds too often as he likes repetition.

chocolate, chocolate, chocolate (not that I'd forbid it for an NT child, but I'm very relaxed about the vast quantities that dd munches her way through)

Skips and Quavers (ditto)

Location of ds's meals - all are eaten in his bedroom. A few months ago, he starting refusing to come downstairs to eat. I tried everything, waiting til he was hungry, changing the downstairs room, etc. Nothing worked. He would only eat in his bedroom so that is where he eats. Many of his professionals dislike this idea and openly disapprove. I don't care - I've told them that it's not realistic to drag him downstairs sobbing and resisting. He's too just darned heavy and strong. His way means a full stomach, no meltdown and less stress all round .

Ds often eats in front of the computer and has way too many lollipops.

lying over the chair/sitting on lap, rolling about during meals out (dyspraxic, low muscle tone, aspergers) bringing books to the table, eating snacks all day (low blood sugar brings on meltdowns), coaxing and encouraging when having a tantrum instead of laying down law, always having subtitles on when watching TV, answering for him and not demanding 'manners' too much (encourage social greetings but can't force him) letting him finish what he is doing if at all possible, even if we have to wait a while....loads of things! I do think it makes nt siblings behaviour rather worse, but hey ho, life isn't perfect.

DS sitting under the table in McDonalds so we can cope with the number of people then DD can have a treat for a change.

Wearing the same clothes 3 days in a row - even to sleep in ( I know a bit poo stinky but hey ho at least it;s clothes)

Physically dressing him everyday for school (he's 9) so he has socks AND underpants on - especially the underpants, espcially on PE days

Sleeping in my bed for a week and a half because he's worried about coming home from holidays (spare room again DH!)

lol - 'at least it's clothes'!

ds is over-fond of his pjs!

dd - not expecting her to cope with remembering ANYTHING she needs to bring home from school, even at 10 1/2, it's just a dam site easier if I go in and look for what she's lost/forgetten/stuffed in her drawer there. doing her laces for her as she still cant do them. More sweets & crisps than I should really, as it's easier than her screaming like a 2 year old (getting a bit embarrasing now!). ds2 - dressing him, he likes to go to pre-school(big school next week!) in nothing but pants, wellies and his coat (if I could get away with it, I wouldn't bother!),which he NEVER takes off, he says it protects him?, so I have to dress him. letting him eat lying on the sofa when the others are at school, and not yelling at him for 'flolloping' (sorry, word our family uses for the bleargh you get from hypermobility syndrome & hypotonia together). Not trying that hard to get him to eat anything other than weetabix for breakfast, a plain ham sandwich for lunch, and pasta for dinner (plain pasta). not stopping him from pulling my clothes apart when someone talks to him & he hides behind me/in my clothes. It's just not worth it.

Too many MN sins for me to list them all but:

Ds1 still generally eats with his fingers. If he uses a fork it's considered progress.

He's not even close to being dry at night so he's still in pyjama pants. Ds2 still wears nappies at night.

Ds2 doesn't wear clothes at home other than pants (a big breakthrough for him).

He still refuses to poo in a toilet so has a nappy for that. We have to go through the same ritual each time, and even have to sing the words "Poo in a nappy! Poo! Poo! Poo!" to the same tune as "Who let the dogs out?" I feel slightly better about that though after reading all these posts about singing.

He's allowed out without a coat even when it's raining. The only way to get him to drink milk is to put it in a bottle and warm it up in the microwave.

DD eats her 'meals' (often just half a biscuit, some beans or a few strands of spaghetti) straight off the table (otherwise she chucks the food and tries to eat the plate). Nobody's ever commented because she looks young enough to be only 12-15 months: however, I'm fairly sure we'll be getting some stares in future.

When ds was little and wouldn't eat as well as he does now, I mixed 2 or 3 fromage frais into every meal.
Buying very expensive skateboarding stickers to decorate his wheelchair. £5 a pop!!!!!!!!