I am feeling very angry and need advice as I have a meeting on thursday

[2shoes]

just picked d up from respite. after 12(nearly 13) years she is dry. the respite people know this. yet she had a f nappy on. under her pretty pants
they had been on an outing(one of the things I m going to bring up at the meeting is toileting on outings) BUT she has pads(like tenna) there, she should have had one of them on if needed.
I have told dd not to let anyone put a nappy on her. I phone and they have said sorry and are going to look into it.
I am angry though.

Hi 2 shoes i don't blame you for being angry i would have been furious too. They have to respect that it's her independence they are treading on (and dignity) was she ok about it?

yes thanks. I think she thought I was over reacting(this is all new to her)

Let's hope that the meeting on thursday starts with a grovelling apology and promise not to use nappies again. Can see why you are pissed off.