i've had a difficult few weeks and am exhausted.
But....on Monday Leigh finally got his diagnosis of ASPERGER's Syndrome.
So ..... here begins the next struggle...getting him the support he needs!!! He ofcourse expected overnight to suddenly love being at school...he came home tuesday saying NOTHING was any better! Bless!
But...........the biggest annoyance (as my title suggested) is other peoples attitude to my boys.
Recently i was asked by a 'well meaning cow' whether i really could say hand on heart tyhat i do all i can to help my 11 yr old...Grrrrr! and she suggested that to 'make him' go out and play...i should take the powere leads out of the playstation...computer etc... (mind u my youngest ...supposedly NT takes the batteries out of everything already...maybe he could do the deed for me!) So according to her THAT will solve my son's social skills issues!
Don't worry- i was more angry than hurt.
But TODAY!!!! Well that was the last straw!
some of you will remeber that my inlaws don't opperated an 'Inclusion Policy'....so a few weeks ago i shouldn't have been suprised when one of my husban's cousins was 'shocked' to hear that Tom was DX'd with ADHD/AS...as no-one had told her...now my inlaws ARE the MAFIA...and even have a set of tribal drums...so any gossip gets passed with speed to everyone....yet 'suprise suprise' the news that my son is disabled was omitted.
So i seethed for the rest of the day- and vowed that 'if' leigh got a dx on monday that i would post everyone a copy of the report!!!!
However ...ofcourse i have calmed down...until today!!!
I was at Parent Support Group...not just SN ...and they had invited a guest speaker...the 'TOP' SEN co-oridinator from The Special Educational Needs Support Service (the ones that help us parents go through statementing/headteacher meetings etc)
Well......he brought his assistant who turned out to be my husband's cousin !! (she has a daughter aged 14 with CP)
She saw me and said " what are you doing here???"
She too had no idea that my son had AS etc. I then told her that Leigh had just got the DX....and she was horrified that no-one told her!
Now this could be a fantastic thing to happen as she will certainly make it known to The Mafia what she thinks....but better still....she is 'professionally' knowledgable about statementing etc
....so yes people may just treat my boys like dirt and sweep them under the carpet...but i reckon with her attitude/confidence/knowledge and help i will get needs recognised ...both at home and at school....and at the Mafia HQ