My lovely friends on the SN section...

[ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands]

..Would you mind awfully having a look at this pile of drivel I've just posted on the development/behaviour section on behalf of my friend?

Posted it there because it may well not be an SN issue.. but I know you guys might not see it there and your input may be very valuable if you have any..

Sorry it's slightly (ahem) long.. .. you know what I'm like (grin]

I did think straight away of Opposition Defiance Disorder, which I think is PDA. I have a friend whose little girl sounds similar, always in trouble at school etc - but I think that is more a case of undiagnosed dyslexia and ADHD. God, I feel for your friends. My ABA tutors would say ignore all tantrums as they are attention-seeking behaviour and the more they work, the more he'll see them as a successful strategy. But that is easier said than done, as I know very well. I wonder if some kind of behavioural therapy or ABA might help here though?