Dear mum on this wonderful forum

I am a mum to 2 autistic kids...I have started ABA last year and due to.cost contraints.. etc I had to be the full time ABA tutor for my.kids.
My daughter is now in year1 but my son missed school.entry to reception this Month as we are waiting for the court hearing (LA are pushing for a special school, which is detrimentsl to him).
Could you please share your experience ..
Whether negative or positive of running ABA at home or mainstream school.
My ultimate aim is to havd ABA + Mainstream for both my.kids...
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My son is still non.verbal but he is off nappies...can do self.help skills...can eat on his own...
We are slso working on imitation skills and some PECS as vocal traiming didnt work (i am suspecting lips apraxia).
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My daughter was non.verbal last year...and now she can nake 2-3 word sentences...and we have programs on imptoving her functiondl.speech
Whever I talk positive about my ABA experidnce...i get only negative echo from school staf.. SEN prof who just want to attribute all this progress to a "normal growth" ...or...process of cjild being mature and more grown up :(
I have been working intensively fot 18hrs a day 7/7 for all last year ...i feel very frustrated when all the ABA hard work is not acknwledged.
Now, i am.collecting ABA data and prrparing for the court hearing soon...i am very worried if the judge would push for Special.school or refuse my parental.wish for ABA + mainstream.
Please advise me about any ideas that could help my daily ABA tutorship as well as my court hearing.
Thanks lovely brave mum 