Sex education and DS

[Notthecarwashagain]

DS (9) come home from school red in the face, close to tears, and really miserable, as they did sex education today.

For background, he has vocal and motor tic disorder, Ocd, spd, and is being assessed for asd.

For some reason (I have tried asking him, but it leads to anger and meltdown) he gets very distressed by the word 'sex'
If he hears it on tv, or sees it written down (for example waiting at hospital for paed appointment he saw a poster about single sex wards) he gets very worked up.

He's obsessing about having to do it again tomorrow (I don't know if they are or not)
If I ring the school and ask for him not to take part will they think it odd? And actually would that be the wrong thing to do?

I don't know what to do for the best.
What should I do?! (Sorry for being so needy!)

Thanks zzzzz, I'll give them a call and see what they say.
I'm very much floundering around at the moment with DS' school issues, so am really grateful for the advice!

Apes mating

I spoke to DS school when they did sex ed in year 6. Ds can get very anxious about things he may see (pics and videos). School were very understanding as I just said its not an education session if he becomes so anxious it makes it harder to re visit it at a later date if needs be.

I think he did listen and learn something - he came home and announced woman are like plants - they have a seed in them and when it's fertilised it grows

Apes mating Love that!

It such a relief to have people understand and experience the same- thank you for your messages

DS also has a very strong reaction to UB40's Red Red Wine, but fortunately that doesn't crop up in many situations!

Oh no Polter! Your poor DS (and you) that's not an avoidable song at all!

Oh good that the school take it seriously.
And what a pain about the car!

Terrible!
Apparently they weren't going to be doing sex education yesterday, just pregnancy and 'how to be healthy' so I said ok, that shouldn't be a problem.
Wrong!
DS came home and screamed and shouted for 2 solid hours about it.
He said the teacher had told him I'd called and said he'd be fine with it, and he wasn't at all
Awful afternoon!

Sometimes I wonder if I should be looking in to a special school for him, away from all the pressure and misunderstanding of mainstream. But then I don't know if that would be right for him either.
So hard isn't it?

Thank you for asking- I'm so sorry for the long ranty rant!

My ds keeps going weak at the knees every time he sees the anatomy drawings of sex - not sure how biology will go in secondary
He asked to lie down when I explained sex and how to make a baby....

Exactly! It's us that have to deal with the fallout.

Yeah he's doing the 'hiding his feelings and blowing up at home' thing.
I asked him if the teacher knew he was uncomfortable and he said no, "I don't show emotion"
And I know it's wrong, but I thought, well I wish you bloody would sometimes!

(At school I mean! Plenty of emotion shown at home!)

Sorry to hear it didn't of well.

Can school arrange some sort of exit/timeout card for yiur DS and a safe place to go? So he doesn't have to show emotion it can be a rule based leaving strategy.

My DS has a timeout card. Sadly he isn't yet ready to use it before he explodes - he still runs out and may show the card as he goes! But he knows he has a get out which is easier for him iyswim?

Sorry not been back to this before, DS has been awful for the past few days.
I don't know if it's a hormone surge, or if something else is bothering him, but he's so, so angry.
He's pretty much growling at me when I speak to him, and is spending most of his time in his room. His noises are off the scale loud too :(

A timeout card sounds like a great idea, youarenot. I'll ask the school if something like that can be done.
Glad it's working for your DS. It must be so hard for them!