Hi,
I have used this forum over the years to discuss my worries about ds (now 10) who I suspect has ASD but it's been a while since I posted so apologies this is rather long.
Bit of background... when ds was a toddler he showed all the stereotypical behaviours of ASD need for routine, stimming, no role play, lining up toys, tip toe walking, speech delay with echolalia etc. This was all flagged up by nursery and primary school also, however ds is very sociable I would say overly so and has always wanted friends, whether they wanted to be his friend or not! He has also always been very hyperactive constantly bouncing and fidgeting, touching everything in sight etc. As he got older these behaviours lessened but were still very much there. Finally last year he was referred to CAMHS and diagnosed with ADHD they also referred him for ADOS. The results have came back as no diagnosis.
A little about ds now. He has no friends but thinks he does, if he meets a person once he thinks they are his best friend. He has the same obsession that he has had since he was 3. He has various tics that he finds very distressing. He has lots of sensory issues, he still tip toe walks, he sniffs everything and touches items to his face, he won't have his hair cut and gets distressed by washing. Food is not allowed to touch or change brand. He has little sense of what is appropriate for his age he wants to act like a younger child and befriends even toddlers he see it unfair that he is older. He would happily not wipe nose even if friends mention it's runny or put deodorant on even if he smells bad, he constantly touches his private parts and can't understand it's inappropriate. He has no sense of personal space and constantly grabs my dp's bum. I can't take him anywhere because he still constantly touches everything, jumps, walks backwards around shops etc I could go on....
In the ADOS they said he did not score because he could have a conversation with the examiner back and forth. I think ds really struggles with communication unless it's one to one then he loves it or if it's on his terms he just talks 'at you' generally. In fact at a recent SALT assessment he scored 1st percentile of non literal language and 3rd percentile for receptive vocabulary. He also used gestures and asked the examiner for information and gave names of his 'friends' who are actually just classmates. He was unable to make up a story and used functional objects as intended, he also showed repetitive behaviour but there was no anxiety, in the real world ds has LOTS of anxiety and is showing aggression with it recently. They also noted him touching himself throughout. Ds admitted he holds his tics in at school they say this is a sign of social awareness so not ASD
Conclusion of all this is they believe it's the ADHD causing all of the above and he will be starting a trial of Strattera soon. Does this sound like just ADHD to anyone else and will the medication really help? I don't know how much more fighting I have left in me and I'm so concerned for his future.