mil made a comment that upset me what do you think?

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2shoes · 29/12/2006 21:59

on christmas day mil compared dd to her ggrandaughter who is 5. I objected as dd is 11, I know dd is delayed and young for her age. but found the comment really thoughtless. had to excuse mil as she is 81 on sunday and didn't mean to be hurtful.
But I find this hard. I mean I know why people make these comments and in away I sort of understand but I get eally annoyed.
(sorry post is as confused as I feel)

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Blossomgoodwill · 29/12/2006 22:05

It is very hard 2shoes and I am always pulling my own mum up about things she says that are a bit insensitive.
I am so sensitive when it comes to dd and my guard goes up instantly.
I know this is going to sound a cliche but the older generation find it so much harder to understand disability and I guess it's because they came from a time when disabilities were shut away iykwim
xxxxxx
btw I keep emailing you but it keeps returning saying unavailable!

TEEstheCEEsontobejolly · 29/12/2006 22:06

What did she say eacatly?

Thing is - like you say, she's 81 and she didn't mean to be hurtful. I think you needs to let her off and not let yourslef feel too upset, different generation and all that.

TC x

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2shoes · 29/12/2006 22:20

blossom I will email you
I know but It happens so much. dd is bright and I feel hurt for her.

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TEEstheCEEsontobejolly · 29/12/2006 22:49

Oh mate Course you feel sad for her when these things happen, you feel protective and want to bite off the head of anyone who crosses a line. We all totally understand that and sympathise, xxx

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