DS1 7 in YR3 (ASD & ADHD) dx at 3.
In MS school and apart from me having to keep them on their toes, they have supported him well up till now. SENCO is always full of praise for how well he is supported at home, which is true.
We decided to medicate (very low dose) towards the latter end of YR2 because frankly he was in turmoil and it would be fair to say this has enabled him to concentrate for longer periods and has helped regulate his behaviour (less outburst etc). He language and social interactions are still concerns as are other issues.
To my issue... His YR3 CT and I are locking horns, she clearly believes that I should "trust her to get on with her job"! And me on the other hand am not prepared to abdicate my responsibility for his education to her, or anyone for that matter which is why I have always been very involved. This hasn't been an issue until now. We had a fraught meeting a few weeks ago when she got very defensive (and quite angry) when I asked if they had done what they were supposed to do as agreed in the IEP meeting. I also don't beleive he is getting any support for S&C issues probably because since medicating him he is, (for want of a better phrase) less of an issue for them behavioural wise) .I wasn't happy so I asked the SENCO for another meeting to agree some common ground.
The meeting is this week and I am planning on asking how his extra funding, above their notional SEN budget allocation (doesn't have a statement or EHCP) is being spent. I know this and the fact that I'm going to elude to lack of support is going to make for a difficult meeting. Would therefore be grateful for any advise on how you would handle this...