Toddler in the process of being diagnosed with autism/ sensory issues

[Kab13]

Please can anyone give advice on how to handle her explosive temper?
Don't even want to take her out in public anymore

Honestly...I stay home as much as possible.

Just had a massive cry, as I was stuck in the school car park unable to go anywhere as my 2yo was having a meltdown and I couldn't get her secure in the car seat in order to drive home....home now

Hopefully someone else will post with useful advice.

I don't have a final dx for my toddler but he's a nightmare. I feel your pain

I honestly can't imagine having another child with my dd being so difficult! I think I'd be a mess. I walked home with a buggy and a bottle of wine in my hand from soft play today on the verge of tears. My goodness.
Nice to know I'm not alone :(

My DS (2.9) has a private diagnosis of ASD and sensory processing disorder. We are in the process of NHS assessments. I really feel for you with the tantrums and meltdowns. DS has them regularly. It's so hard. I know he is also having a hard time, he has speech delay and gets frustrated, sensory issues on top of that.

When meltdowns happen at home I finding taking him to the garden or taking him in the buggy sometimes help. At nursery the staff distract with other activities but sometimes it takes two staff members to calm him.

I also have a 6 month old DD, when she was a newborn things were quite difficult, but now DS is actually starting to notice her on occasions and seems happy to have her around.

Kab, can you get in touch with 'contact a family' if they are in your area, they run workshops for parents. I have been on one called Managing Behaviour, it was quite good and I met other parents in the same boat. Or maybe call your health visitor to see if she can suggest any groups that you can attend.
I was very lucky to find a children's centre that excepted DS and his meltdowns and supported us through them and helped us to build techniques to use at home. He can now wait his turn, sit for more than 2 minutes without getting distracted and share which I never thought he would do.

I found the most important thing was to stay calm during the melt down as me going off on one was only adding fuel to the fire.

Preparing him for when something was going to end by saying 5 4 3 2 1 finished helped him to understand how to move onto another task.

A visual time table was also very helpful to explain what was happening and to help him communicate. How old is your DD? Is she verbal?

She's 2 in feb. Very little communication and even less understanding. (Seemingly)thank you so much everyone for your responses. Short reply from me due to exhaustion!
Will look into all suggestions tomorrow,
Thank you