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depression in toys r us

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 13/05/2006 20:23

ds1's bday tomorrow. We're hoping to get him a tom cat SN bicycle eventually but they're a thousand quid (!) so we need to apply to a charity for part funding.

Anyway decided to go to toys r us for some things to open tomorrow. Decided to steer clear of therapy and get things he woiuld enjoy. I walked round the store for an hour getting more depressed as I couldn't find anything he would want.

Eventually bought a toy washing line (which he'll love), a dog thing that dances to an ipod (which he may completely ignore) and a balamory play set.

For a 7 year old. He has no idea its his birthday tomorrow.

God I hate his birthday. Another year gone, but we're still stood still.

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SoupDragon · 13/05/2006 20:26

:(

marthamoo · 13/05/2006 20:27

Don't know what to say - just wanted to let you know I'd read this. I'm sorry Sad

Blandmum · 13/05/2006 20:27

oh hell. all I can do is send a hug. Sad

expatinscotland · 13/05/2006 20:28

Aw, Jimjams. (((HUGS)))

Sad
RnB · 13/05/2006 20:28

:( I hope it does end up being a nice day for you all.

JanH · 13/05/2006 20:28

Sad jj.

Can't think of anything else to say.

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 13/05/2006 20:30

oh he'll have a nice day rnb, a cake and birthday tea with us and mum and dad and he does at least understand that you open presents now. It'll be me trying not to blub.....

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foxinsocks · 13/05/2006 20:31

have you got a link to the SN bike? Seems so expensive Sad

I don't know where you are but I noticed that in Bushy Park (near Hampton Court) they have organised bike rides that take people round the park and they are specially designed for people (adults or children) with special needs. Not sure who arranges it though.

r3dh3d · 13/05/2006 20:39

Oh Jimjams, I am so sorry. (((hugs))).

We had exactly this at Christmas. Went all round our Toys r us, looking for a prezzie for DD1. Took her with us. Couldn't find a single thing she'd want or enjoy. She can't play. She doesn't know what toys are. It's such a kick in the guts going round this huge shop full of toys and her just sitting there chewing the side of the buggy - I totally know how you feel, though of course DD1 is only 2 so we haven't had it as long as you.

The thing I find is worst is the relations - DH's grandparents in particular are rather frail and she's their first great-grandchild so they scrape together the money to buy her toys and expect me to go through the ELC catalogue and choose things for them to buy and have sent to her. It's heartbreaking flicking through the pages desparately looking for something that might interest her. I just want to say to them "GET WITH THE PROGRAM, SHE IS NOT UP TO THIS STUFF" but of course you can't, can you? Reality would break them. It's done a pretty good number on me.

Oh poot. Didn't mean to turn this into a rant about us. Just meant to say I sort of understand, that's all.

More (((hugs)))

Red x

2shoes · 13/05/2006 20:41

Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads nig hugs.
I know how hard birthdays can be. with dd I just feel like i am stck in a time warp as she hasn't out grown out of most of her toys. so just end up buying more of the same.
Hope the birthday goes well

Socci · 13/05/2006 20:44

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ScummyMummy · 13/05/2006 20:48

Oh my darling.:( Toys r us is a depressing enough experience at the best of times without having to face hard things while you're in there.
But but but... and tell me to fuck off if you want cos he ain't my boy and I don't live with it... but I'm afraid I refuse to accept the stood still bit. Your boy has done wonders over this year, as have you as a family. What about loving school? What about adding about a million things to his diet? What about going to cafes? He IS developing, just to his own beat. And coping with that is NOT standing still. It is winning. Imo. And you can still tell me to fuck off. And I'm still sorry that toys r us was shit.

cod · 13/05/2006 20:49

it is shit generally
( nto that i dont sypahtise)

cod · 13/05/2006 20:50

its that t effin giraffe thing

that deosnt help

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SoupDragon · 13/05/2006 20:51

I agree with Scummy - I thought from my lurking that he'd made progress in all sorts of areas. Not the same areas as everyone else maybe but it's a bigger deal for him to progress in anything.

reiver · 13/05/2006 20:52

Totally agree with the last comments. I wander round trying to find something different yet which is appropriate and it's so depressing when it should be such fun. Then friends and family ask for ideas and I'm struggling myself!
Take care.

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 13/05/2006 20:58

oh I know scummy but we went to a birthday party this afternoon (one of his classmates), and he was vying for the position of most unmanageable (of an SLD class!). And to make things worse a group from his old mainstream class were there, and bloody hell they've grown up in a year and a half.

He loved the party btw, but kept being told off for going down the slide without a mat (he looks so completely and utterly "normal"- I can believe myself how totally disabled he is at times, he can't access most things designed for disabled people). Being told off didn't bother him incidentally he just ignored them and walked off.

I'm glad (and not glad- you know what I mean) that I'm not the only one who gets this though.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/05/2006 21:02

Oh Jimjams I dont know what say Sad

NotAnOtter · 13/05/2006 21:05

hope you enjoy tomorrow jimjams x

ScummyMummy · 13/05/2006 21:06

Rules about slides and mats and things are always a NIGHTMARE for kids with autism though, babe. Honestly. So much so that I once had to really lose it with a tosser of a slide owning jobsworth who was being a super arse when I took some kids with autism to a fun day at which he and his slide were present.

Angeliz · 13/05/2006 21:08

Sorry you're feeling down Jimjams.
Do hope you all have a lovely day tomorrow+

Marina · 13/05/2006 21:11

Can you actually do being a tosser of a slide-owning jobsworth for a living scummy Shock
I can't add anything helpful either Jimjams. I hope he loves the presents and I hope his day goes really well.

ScummyMummy · 13/05/2006 21:20

I think so, Marina. He had an actually rather cool, if you like that sort of thing (which the kids I was with most certainly did), inflatable slide with four different sections on which you whooshed down on a mat. Except none of the kids I was with either saw the need for a mat or had the slightest inkling that one was required which did not please the fool in question. I presume he drives from event to event to inflate his slide and then sit by it and pontificate in a jobsworthy tosserish fashion.

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Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 13/05/2006 21:27

aww scummy you are a star. Describes it exactly- he had no need of a mat, nor had the lsightest inkling one was required. Exactly :o

Actually he did make me laugh. The slide he was going down had 4 lanes. He got a bit attached to certain lanes, so if people were sitting in them he just hopped over them (and their mats) and whoosh off he went.

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cod · 13/05/2006 21:28

lol