Hi Lilipad,
i have had to push for 2 years to get any help with either children, and still really don't have much, we dont even have a social worker for dylan and he is disabled
Basically, the SS runs a family centre and since october last year, chloe has been attending behaviour thearapy of which came to an end in march, but as they could see that i needed help still, they decided at the centre, not SS, much to there annoyance though that they would send a family support worker round on a 12 week course to see if she can help identify the problems at home and then she will put in a referral back to ss with an assesment and diary on what she has witnessed in the hope to get me some support.
I also use the local home start agency and the 2 visits per week are invaluble and i have made a good family friend through it.
It may be worth you finding out if you have a sure start or home start in your area.
In the meantime, i would see your pead or HV, to ask what they can do for you both now in regards to getting help and support.
Thinking of you and hope all goes well.
Butty.xxx