I've got a SN toddler (21 months, GDD, ASD, severe Epilepsy etc etc) and a newborn. It's not too bad atm as I have a SN nanny, but she'll be leaving us in July and as I'm on mat leave I can't afford to replace her.
I was thinking of getting an Au Pair; DD1 should be in SN nursery 2 1/2 hours a day by then and if I get help with all the houseworkey tasks and driving her about I thought we could probably cope.
Has anyone experience of having an au pair with an SN child? Does it work? Do they get freaked out by it - after all, they're supposed to be a family member not an employee and it's a bit of an odd family situation to dump them in. I'm also very much aware I won't be able to leave her in sole charge of either child.